Why husband have High Status that He does? – Shaykh Muhammad Amaan Jaamee

Taken from the Book: The Structure of the Muslim Family by the shaykh al’Allaamah Muhammad Amaan ibn Ali al-Jaami died: 1416H

[004:034] Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means.

This verse, as you can see, clearly gives the responsibility of leading and governing the family to the man. Additionally, the verse never failed to clarify the reason for this; rather, it explained why.

Allah said, “because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means.” [1]

[1][TN}: Al-Qurtubi said in his tafseer [5/161] :

“Some of the people of knowledge have understood from the saying of Allah, the Most High, “because they spend (to support them) from their means.” That whenever the husband is incapable of supporting his wife then he is not considered to be maintaining her. If he is not maintaining her, then she can seek that the marriage contract be annulled because one of the intents behind the legislation of marriage has been lost.”

2. That both of them performed and fulfill the rights and obligations that Allah has made compulsory upon them as it pertains to the other partner. The wife should not demand to receive exactly the same rights that belong to the husband, and the husband should not use the authority or leadership that Allah has graced him with as an opportunity to oppress her and beat her unjustly. [ page # 49-50]

3. It is essential that the woman obey her husband as much as she can when he commands her. As this is a station that Allah has granted to the men as mentioned in the two previous verses: “Man are the protectors and maintainer of women” [An-Nisaa: 34] and “But men have a degree of responsibility over them” [Al-Baqarah: 228]  [page # 5]

Shaykh Muhammad Amaan al-Jaami rahimahullaah advises in “The Structure of The Muslim Family” (translated by brother Hasan As-Somali hafithahullaah) pg 31.

“It is upon the intelligent Muslim woman to study her religion to allow her to truly grasp the position of Islam towards the woman and the dignified position Islam has given her. Additionally, she should not pay attention to every imbecile that makes unfounded claims.

At the same time, she should examine some of the foreign constitutions, like the French constitution, to truly understand the position that these constitutions have towards the women.”

Taken from the Book: The Structure of the Muslim Family by the shaykh al’Allaamah Muhammad Amaan ibn Ali al-Jaami died: 1416H.