How to be a Successful Woman
Owais al Hashimi (hafidhahullaah)
Dawatul Muminaat Sisters conference Jan 4th 2013
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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
The brother began with Khutbatul Hajjah
Allaah subhanahu wa ta’ala mentioned the success -the true meaning of success and being successful is the one who is saved from the fire due to his own sins and his own disobedience of Allah and is admitted into al Jannah where Allah subhanawa ta’ala said (what means):
“Whoever is saved from the fire and admitted into paradise, then he is the one who has been successful.. “
Allah Subhana wa ta’ala many places in the Quran told us His promise that He will admit the believing men and women into Jannah, into paradise, so He linked success and admission into paradise, with having correct iman, faith and belief, which includes practising the religion of Islam and putting it to practice. All those that a person’s faith necessitates or requires of him or her.
So Allah subhana wa ta’ala said in Surah At Taubah:“Allah has promised to believers – men and women – Gardens under which rivers flow, to dwell therein [forever], and beautiful mansions in Gardens of everlasting bliss. But the greatest bliss is the Pleasure of Allah. That is the supreme success”. (Surah At-Tauba 9:72)
Allah subhana wa ta’ala said (what means)
Allaah may admit the believing men and the believing women to Gardens beneath under which rivers flow (i.e. Paradise), to abide therein forever, and to expiate from them their sins, and that is with Allâh, a supreme success. (Al-Fath 48:5)
……Secondly, it is a call for us to realize that having faith, have iman in Allah subhana wa ta’ala necessitates certain things. If a person has true Iman, then that must bring about certain actions. It must bring about certain change in the person’s behaviour and lifestyle. So when he or she acts, they do things that are in accordance with the obedience of Allaah Subhanahu wa ta’ala. And that Iman (faith) that a person has -that belief about the truth, also makes a person or should make a person stay away from the things that Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala has told him to stay away from.
Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala describes the qualities of the believers. And in this respect as a rule, we know that when the believers are described in the Qu’ran, this includes both men and women unless there is a proof, there is specific proof, either in the context of the verses or a Hadith of the Prophet sallalahu alayhi wa salam or through the Sunnah of the Prophet which explains the Qu’ran. To show that this particular command or prohibition is specific to the males, men of his ummah or to the women of his ummah. Otherwise the general rule is when the believers are addressed “O you who believe..” and when believers or righteous people are described, this refers to both men and women. So in terms of the obligation upon us all to believe in Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala and believe in the hereafter to accept the truth and then act upon the truth, to put it into practice in our lives – all of this ummah, all of the believers, men and women, are the same in the regard. And they have the same obligation and the same promise of success and the same promise of being forgiven for their shortcomings and their mistakes and being admitted into paradise and being saved from the fire.
However, in other places in the Qu’ran, there is also an emphasis given with regard to men and with regards to women. In some places, believing men and women are mentioned alongside each other in the verses of the Qu’ran. And in some places,there is specific address and a specific description about women believers, righteous women, women who have been commanded to d ocertain things, to put certain or obey Allah subhana wa ta’ala in a specific way or to stay away from some specific thing. We can say that all of those are descriptions and aspects of what make as successful Muslim woman.
So an example of the general description of the believers that should be true of the believing woman as well as the man, is the statement of Allah subhana wa ta’ala in surah Muminoon. Where He (what means)
” Indeed successful are the believers, those who are humble and submissive in their prayers and those who turn away from ill and false speech. And those who pay the Zakat. And those who guard their chastity.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts) (Al-Mu’minon 1-5)
So for a person who want success in this life and the hereafter, he or she should consider the description and the attributes, the qualities that are mentioned in such verses. Again, success has been linked to a person being a believer, and then in this passage, these verses of the noble Qu’ran some of the qualities of the believers are mentioned. The first of them is khushoo in one’s salah. And al khushoo is to be humble and submissive and low in front of Allah subhana wa ta’ala -in one’s heart and physically in the movement and in the settling of the limbs in the prayer. This is really the soul and heart of a person’s salah, that when a person stands in front of Allah subhana wa ta’ala to pray, to establish the salah, that person standing humbly and submissively in his heart and in his body such that she thinks or she thinks about Allah subhana wa ta’ala and about the remembrances that she is saying, what she is remembering Allah subhana wa ta’ala with. And she thinks about the meaning of whats he is reciting which makes her turn to Allah subhana wa ta’ala and perform this act of worship according to, in the best way and hoping to gain forgiveness from Allah subhana wa ta’ala to get the reward of Allah subhana wa ta’ala through the worshipping Him. This should cause the person to pray with khushoo in one’s limbs, to be still and humble of Allah, to concentrate on remembering Allah subhana wa ta’ala in the prayer. And this is the thing that really gives a benefit to a person and is the real purpose of the prayer, to remember Allah subhana wa ta’ala, and to submit the limbs and to submit ones body, to submit your whole self to Allah subhana wa ta’ala.
……..And if we want to generalize,because sometimes it’s true or it’s beneficial to generalize,one of the things that many women are being tried with is false speech. Speech that is that involves disobeying Allah subhana wa ta’ala, and displeasing Allahazza wa jal. So back biting,slandering others, speaking indecently, speaking to males,speaking to men in an inappropriate manner, speaking and arguing and fighting with each other and cursing one another or saying things which involve belittling your fellow sisters. These things have to be considered because they draw you away from Allah subhana wa ta’ala and they draw a person closer to jahannam. These things are forbidden and one of the worse some of the worst sins are related to the sins of one’s speech.
These are also some of the qualities that Allah subhana wa ta’ala described of successful women. They have those same fundamental qualities that men are supposed to have to be successful, that women are supposed to also have, we are the same in this regard. Submitting to Allah subhana wa ta’ala,believing in correct iman and correct aqeedah, correct belief system, correct attitude,believing in all those things that we’re supposed to believe in and not rejecting any of it. To have iman, To be devout, obedient to Allah subhana wa ta’ala, to have this qunoot,, to put one self to the obedience to to Allah subhana wa ta’ala, to be truthful in one’s belief, in one’s speech, and in one’s actions. This is one of the most important qualities, and actually in reality, the quality of truthfulness is not just to speak the truth. This is one important aspect of being truthful. Truthfulness, begins by being true in one’s heart and in one’s actions. Meaning that when a person obeys Allah subhana wa ta’ala openly, they really mean it and they do it sincerely from the heart. Truthfulness in reality is to be the same on the inside a as you are on the outside. Truthfulness is to be the same on the inside as you are on the out side. This is the reality of truthfulness and one part of that and a very important part of that is to always say the truth. When you speak, speak the truth.Those who are patient from the men and the women. Assabr – patience, is to remain steadfast in obeying Allah subhana wa ta’ala, believing and trusting in the reward from Allah subhana wa ta’ala and that Allah will reward you and take care of you if you remain obedient to him. Thats the reality of patience.
Assabr has three aspects to it. The first is to steadfast,consistent, upon the obedience of Allah subhana wa ta’ala, to remain obedient to Allah subhana wa ta’ala so that no matter what hardships you have or challenges you have, you don’t allow yourself to do something or to leave obeying Allah subhana wa ta’ala. You stay obedient to Allah subhana wa ta’ala. When you pray, you remain someone who prays regularly. When you obey Allah subhana wa ta’ala in a certain way, you ensure you try to make sure that you’re always like this. You remain steadfast on this. This is the first pillar of patience to remain obedient to Allah subhana wa ta’ala.
The second thing is to remain patient and staying away from sins and staying away from the disobedience of Allah subhana wa ta’ala. So when you leave and you abandon a sin for Allah subhana wa ta’ala, to be saved from Allah anger and to be rewarded you stay like this. You maintain that and you don’t give up you don’t allow yourself to fall back into disobeying Allah subhana wa ta’ala. And the third pillar of sabr, or patience, is to remain steadfast and be patient in the face of what afflicts or what faces you, what Allah has written to affect you in your life. Trouble, danger,,stress, the loss of wealth, the loss of life, the loss of loved ones, those calamities and problems that may affect a person as a test from Allah subhana wa ta’ala. The third pillar of sabr is to remain patient of obedience. This is also a very important quality of the successful woman. This is a quality of the successful man,the believing man or the believing woman………”