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Prohibition of Bewailing the Deceased

September 4, 2014
Imam Al-Nawawi’s Riyad-us-Saliheen
Chapter 302
Prohibition of Bewailing the Deceased

1657. `Umar bin Al-Khattab (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “The deceased is tortured in his grave for bewailing over him.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

1658. Ibn Mas`ud (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “He who (on befalling a calamity) slaps his cheeks, tears his clothes and follows the ways and traditions of the Days of Ignorance is none of us.”
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

1659. Abu Burdah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: (My father) Abu Musa got seriously ill and lost his consciousness. His head was in the lap of a woman of the family and she began to wail. When Abu Musa recovered his consciousness, he said: “I am innocent of those from whom Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) is innocent. Verily, the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) declared himself free of (the responsibility) for a woman who wails, shaves her head and tears up her clothes.”
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

1660. Al-Mughirah bin Shu`bah (May Allah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) saying, “He who allows (others) to wail over his death, will be punished for it on the Day of Resurrection.’
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

1661. Umm `Atiyyah (May Allah be pleased with her) said: At the time of giving the pledge of allegiance, the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) took from us an oath that we would not wail.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

1662. An-Nu`man bin Bashir (May Allah be pleased with them) said: When `Abdullah bin Rawahah (May Allah be pleased with him) became unconscious, his sister began to weep and shout: “Alas! For the mountain among men. Alas! for such and such (mentioning his virtuous qualities).” When he recovered his consciousness, he said: “I was asked (disapprovingly, by the angels) about everything you said concerning me whether I am as you said.”
[Al-Bukhari].

1663. Ibn `Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) said: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) visited Sa`d bin `Ubadah during his illness. He was accompanied by `Abdur-Rahman bin `Auf, Sa`d bin Abu Waqqas and `Abdullah bin Mas`ud (May Allah be pleased with them). When they entered his house, they found him unconscious. The Messenger of Allah asked, “Has he died?” They replied: “No, O Messenger of Allah.” Hearing this the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) began to weep. When his Companions saw this, they also began to weep too. He said, “Listen attentively: Allah does not punish for the shedding of tears or the grief of the heart, but takes to task or show mercy because of the utterances of this (and he pointed to his tongue).
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

1664. Abu Malik Al-Ash`ari (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “If the wailing woman does not repent before she dies, she will be made to stand on the Day of Resurrection wearing a garment of pitch and a garment of scabies (Allah knows the nature thereof).”
[Muslim].

1665.  Asid bin Abu Usaid reported: A woman who had taken a pledge of allegiance at the hand of the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said: “Among the matters in respect of which we gave the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) the pledge not to disobey him in any Ma`ruf [i.e., all that Islam ordains (V:60:12)] was that we should not slap our faces, bewail, tear our clothes up and tear out our hair (in grief).”
[Abu Dawud].

1666. Abu Musa (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “If anyone dies and the mourner gets up and says: `Alas! For the mountain among men. Alas! For the chief …’ and such like, Allah will put two angels in charge of him who will beat on the breast and ask him (disapproving): `Were you like that?‘ ”
[At-Tirmidhi].

1667. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “Two things are signs of disbelief on the part of those who indulge in them: Slandering one’s lineage and wailing over the dead.”
[Muslim].

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