Averting Ghamm (Grief) and Hamm (Worry) – Imam Ibn al-Jawzi

Ghamm Occurs Due To Misfortunes that happened in the past while hamm occurs due to an expected misfortune in the future.

When someone has the feeling of grief in regard to his past sins, his grief will benefit him, because he is rewarded for it. Whoever worries about a good deed he wishes to do, his worry will benefit him as well. However if someone grieves for something that he missed from this world, then [he should know] that the missed thing will not return and that grief harms, so practically he is adding harm to harm, as I have mentioned in the previous chapter.

A resolute person should protect himself from what brings about grief, and that is losing an object he loves. Therefore, whoever has many objects that he loves, his grief increases, and whoever decreases his objects of love his grief decreases accordingly. Someone may say, when I have no objects of love I also still have grief, we affirm this but we say to him; your grief over not having a loved one is not even a tenth of the grief experienced by the one who has lost a loved one. Have you not noticed that the one who does not have a child lives in grief but not as much as the one who lost his child?! Moreover when a person becomes accustomed to what he loves and enjoys it for a long period of time, it takes over his heart, therefore when he loses it he will feel the bitterness of his loss which will be greater than all the satisfaction he had during his lifetime. This is because the loved one is corresponding to the self just as health corresponds to it, which causes the self not to find satisfaction except in it, for its absence disturbs it. This is why the self grieves for its loss much more than it rejoices in its presence, because the inner self believes that what it had was its given right to possess. Therefore a wise person should monitor the closeness between himself, his beloved to ensure it remains moderately balanced, however if he requires that which brings about grief [i.e. loving some object or person], this causes grief then the cure is first to believe in predestination and that whatever Allah predestines is going to happen. He should then know that life is founded on distress, all constructed buildings shall eventually be ruined, all gatherings shall eventually depart, and whoever wants the lasting of what does not last is like he who wants what does not exist to exist. Therefore he should not ask of life what it was not created for.

A poet said:

It [worldly life] is founded on distress yet you want it, Free of harm and distress

One should imagine that what befell him is multiplied, for this is when what he suffers will be easier on him. It is a habit of smart porters to put something heavy on top of what they are carrying, and then after taking a few steps, to remove the heavy object as that makes what they are carrying feel lighter.

One should also wait, in times of prosperity for an attack of tribulation, so that if any tribulation befalls him, he should think of what remains instead of what he has lost so that when part of that befalls him it becomes very easy on him. Such as when some- one loses some money so he counts what remains, and then considers the remaining as a profit. Or if someone imagines that he loses his eyesight, so that when he has ophthalmia, it becomes easy on him to bear this illness, likewise with the rest of harmful matters.

A poet said:

The prudent imagines in himself,

his tribulations before they befall him.

If they suddenly befall him,

they do not surprise him because he had already imagined them.

And the ignorant trusts the days,

and he forgets the demise of those who came before him.

So when trials of times surprise him,

with some trials he becomes lost

Though if he was strict in his affairs,

patience would have taught him boldness

A member of the righteous predecessors said, “I saw a woman, whose youthfulness surprised me, I said, ‘[There is no doubt] This face has never suffered from sorrow or sadness.’ She said, Do not say that! For I do not know anyone who has suffered from what I have suffered. I had a husband who bought a sacrificial animal and slaughtered it, and we had two sons. The eldest told the one younger than him, ‘Come and I will show you how our father slaughtered the ewe/ So he slaughtered his brother. When we started to look for him, he ran away and my husband died while looking for him/ I said, ‘So how are you handling your sorrow?’ She said, ‘If I could find aid in sorrow I would have employed it.’

Section One: Treating Sorrow, Sadness and Grief

Sorrow, sadness and grief may befalls one due the prevalence of blackness, which should be treated with what will remove this blackness; which are the things that bring about joy. Grief freezes the blood while happiness heats it until its intrinsic heat is raised, both of them (happiness and grief) can harm, and may lead to death, if they are not immediately kept within moderate levels.

Excerpted from the Book “Disciplining The Soul” – Ibn al-Jawzi (d.597AH)
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It is Necessary for The Student Of Knowledge to Follow a Path Of Righteous Good Manners In Giving Dawa’ – Shaykh Rabee bin Haadee

An Excellent Example

And we have in the Messenger of Allaah – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – and in all the Prophets of Allaah a good example.  The Messenger was commanded to take those Prophets before him as an example and to follow their guidance and we have been commanded to follow the guidance of the Messenger of Allaah – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam, and take him as an example:

<< Indeed in the Messenger of Allaah you have a good example to follow forhe who hopes in (the Meeting with) Allaah and the Last Day and remembers Allaah much. >> [al-Ahzab: 21]

This good example is complete in every matter which Muhammad – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam came with; so, he is an example in his Aqeedah, so we believe in that which he believed in; an example in his worship, so we worship Allaah making the religion sincerely for Him, following that which the noble Messenger –alayhis Sallat wa Sallam – came with.

He is an example in great manners which perhaps many of the callers to Allaah – Tabaraka wa Ta’ala – and many of the youth have lost, much of it having been forgotten and some of the youth have forgotten it too.  Indeed Allaah has praised His Messenger – alayhis Sallat wa Sallam – with eloquent praise and He said:

<< And verily, you are on an exalted standard of character >> [Qalam: 4]

So the caller to Allaah, the student of knowledge, the instructor and the guide all need to take the Messenger of Allaah – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – as an example in their ‘Aqeedah, Manhaj and manners.  So if these matters are combined in the caller to Allaah or they are nearly complete then this Dawa’ will be successful – InshAllaah – and the caller to Allaah will have presented it in the most beautiful and best form -BarakAllaahu Feekum.

If the caller to Allaah is deficient in the matters of his Dawa’, being deficient in having noble manners-from which is having patience, wisdom, gentleness, softness and other things which are important, which the Dawa’ of the Messengers –alayhim Sallat wa Sallam- requires.  Then this is an apparent deficiency in his Dawa’.  So it is upon him to ensure he manifests those matters completely.

Perhaps many of the people are negligent of this! And this harms the Dawa’ of Salafiyyah and harms its people.  Since if these manners are neglected and theDawa’ is presented to the people in a way that they dislike and is made unpleasant and detestable by having harshness, severity and recklessness – and the likes of these things – then this is an obstacle to the Dawa’ and to it being accepted.  Since these matters are even disliked in the affairs of the Duniya let alone in the matters of the Deen.

So it is necessary for the student of knowledge to follow a path of righteous good manners in giving Dawa’.

Excerpted fromEncouragement to have Affection and Friendliness and Warning Against Splitting up and Differing – Shaykh Rabee bin Haadee al-Madkhalee, Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya

The Station of Taqwa and Ihsaan – Shaykh Rabee bin Haadee

So this sermon consists of the advice to fear Allaah, which is necessary and it is not exemplified except in the lives of the righteous, truthful scholars as in the saying of Allaah Ta’ala:

<<It is only those who have knowledge among His slaves that fear Allaah. >>[Fatir: 28]

Fear Allaah Azza wa Jal so you can reach this level and learn so that you can reach that status; because the one who knows the correct ‘Aqeedah, Manhaj and rulings, manners and behaviour springing from the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of the Messenger – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – then he is the one who fears AllaahAzza wa Jal and Taqwa is attained with all of these matters.

So when these matters – which we have mentioned – are acknowledged then the slave is driven to the Taqwa of Allaah Azza wa Jal, to having fear of Him and being aware of Him in every time, place and situation.  This is a great station which is the station of al-Ihsaan (perfection of worship).

That you worship Allaah as if you see Him and if you cannot see Him then know that He sees you.'[1]

This station of al-Ihsaan (perfection of worship) is that a person has certainty that Allaah sees him and that Allaah hears all he says and hears; the beating of his heart, the feelings of his heart and what he thinks to himself.   AllaahSubhanahu Wa Ta’ala knows it and hears it and He sees his movements and when he is still.

So the true believer regards Allaah with true greatness and he acknowledges that Allaah Subhanah hears everything that he says and knows everything he discusses, or thinks to himself and that Allaah has:

<<Angels Kirâman (honourable) Kâtibîn writing down (your deeds). They know all that you do. >> [al-Infitar: 11-12]

So if these distinguished feelings are found in the soul of a believer then he has acquired the characteristic of Taqwa which causes him to keep away from sinning,Shirk, Bida’ and superstitions and he acquires the station of al-Ihsaan(perfection of worship) since he is aware of Allaah and he feels that Allaah sees him and he cannot hide anything of his affairs from Allaah not a little nor a lot, not even the like of an atom.

This is a noble awareness and distinguished feeling which pushes one -InshAllaah – to the Taqwa of Allaah.  This cannot be reached except for the one who knows the correct ‘Aqeedah, the correct rulings of Halaal and Haraam and knows the commands and prohibitions, the promise and the warnings from the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah – alayhis Sallat wa SallamThey are the ones who deserve the praise of Allaah – Tabaraka wa Ta’ala – He said; about them:

<< It is only those who have knowledge among His slaves that fear Allaah.>> [Fatir: 28]

And He said:

<< Allaah will exalt in degree those of you who believe and those who have been granted knowledge. >> [al-Mujadilah: 11]

So strive to be from these types of people: i.e. that you combine knowledge and action.  That is the fruit of correct knowledge and having the Taqwa of Allaah – Tabaraka wa Ta’ala – and being aware of Him.

Excerpted fromEncouragement to have Affection and Friendliness and Warning Against Splitting up and Differing – Shaykh Rabee bin Haadee al-Madkhalee, Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya

The Correct Sources of Knowledge – Shaykh Rabee

And it is upon him to learn from the sources which contain the correct beliefs and correct methodologies, to read the Salafi Tafseer books, which are based upon the Tafseer of the Book of Allaah by the Book of Allaah, by the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah and by the Fiqh of the noble Companions those who lived through the descent of the revelation and were present at the time of the Messenger of Allaah – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – and lived with him.

They knew the aim of the Book and the Sunnah. They are the ones whose Fiqh should be held on to as they preserved the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah – alayhis Sallat wa SallamThis is why the noble Messenger –alayhis Sallat wa Sallam – when he spoke about splitting up into sects and spoke about the Firqaat-Un Najeeyah said: ‘Those who are upon what I am upon and my Companions.'[2]

So this Fiqh of the true Deen of Allaah which the noble Companions had – which they acquired from the Book of Allaah and from the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam, from his sayings, actions, his teachings and his directives – alayhis Sallat wa Sallam – it is obligatory upon us to take it as our reference.  The Companions are the intended believers in the saying of Allaah – Tabaraka wa Ta’ala -:

<< And whoever contradicts and opposes the Messenger after the right path has been shown clearly to him and follows other than the believers’ way. We shall keep him in the path he has chosen, and burn him in Hell – what an evil destination. >> [an-Nisaa: 115]

This is a severe threat to the one who contends with Allaah and His Messenger and follows a path other than that of the believers.

So pay attention to this matter and strive to understand the way of the believers which they derived from the Book of Allaah, the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – and from his purifying and educating them upon the Book and the wisdom -BarakAllaahu Feekum.

This is a great opportunity for you; understand from it the true Deen of Allaah and strive earnestly to make it apparent over all religions with proofs and evidences.

It is upon you to seek knowledge from its original watering sources; from the Salafi books of Tafseer, from the Salafi books of ‘Aqeedah, which gush forth from the Book of Allaah and from the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah –alayhis Sallat wa Sallam.  The difference between the way of the truthful believers and the way of the innovating discriminators of the true Manhaj of Allaah will become clear.

They – I swear by Allaah – are the protectors of this Ummah upon the Deen of Allaah Azza wa Jal, they had the correct ‘Aqeedah and Manhaj and they were firmly upon what Muhammad – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – came with.

From what is understood principally, is that it is obligatory upon us to follow the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of His Messenger – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – to hold on firmly to the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – and to bite onto that with our molar teeth, just as the Messenger of Allaah mentioned – when he gave an eloquent sermon whereby tears fell and the hearts trembled  – the Companions requested him to give them some advice they said ; O Messenger of Allaah it is as if this is a farewell sermon, so advise us, he said: ‘I advise you to fear Allaah…….’  pay attention to this advice.

….to hear and obey, whoever lives from amongst you will see many differences so it is upon you to hold on to my Sunnah and the Sunnah of the rightly guided Khulafah, bite on to it with your molar teeth, beware of newly invented matters, for every newly invented matter is a Bida’ and every Bida’ is misguidance.’[3]

[1] Translator’s note: Due to the saying of the noble Messenger of AllaahsallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam ‘Whoever does not thank the people does not thank Allaah.’ As narrated by Abee Sa’eed, & authenticated by al-Albaani in as-Saheehah, I say that may Allaah reward with all goodness in this life and in the Hereafter the brother who facilitated us with the booklet and aided us in its translation.  And to our editor, may Allaah enter her into the highest grades of His Paradise among the Prophets, the Companions and the righteous for all her efforts.

The headings were added for further clarity.

[2] Narrated by Tirmidhi (2641) from the hadeeth of Abdullaah bin ‘Amr –radhiAllaahu anhu- & regarded as Hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (5343).

[3] Narrated by Abu Daawood (4607), Tirmidhi (2676) & Ibn Majah (42) from the hadeeth of al-Irbaad bin Saariyah –radhiAllaahu anhu – & it was authenticated by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (2549).

Excerpted fromEncouragement to have Affection and Friendliness and Warning Against Splitting up and Differing – Shaykh Rabee bin Haadee al-Madkhalee, Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya

Make Du’aa that Allah guides your Children – Dr Murtaza bin Bakhsh

http://urdu-islamic-audio.com/2015/07…
Translated by: Aboo Bilal Nahim ibn Abd al Majid حفظه الله

Video Courtesy: Bilal Nahim

Dr Murtaza bin Bakhsh حفظه الله:

Whoever Allah -the Most High- chooses to guide, that individual is successful in this world and the hereafter. The majority (of the people) say, with regards to their children’s future:

Make my child a doctor.’ ’O Allah, make my child and engineer.’ ’0 Allah, make my child wealthy. ‘Make (my child) a businessman.’ The best du’aa you can make for your children, if you are going to make one is: ’O Allah, guide my children!’ This is the best of supplications!

In our society today, and in (this) nation of Muslims, there is no shortage of doctors, there is no shortage of engineers, nor is there a shortage of businessmen. If there is a shortage, then it is of rightly guided Muslims, individuals of Taqwa who withhold from that which is forbidden. How will this deficiency be fulfilled? I am not saying that you shouldn’t become doctors. Or that you shouldn’t guide your children to becoming doctors or to being engineers, this is not what I am saying. I am saying make them good Muslims (upon) Taqwa who withhold from that which is forbidden first, then a doctor, then an engineer.

You will not be able to rid this society, this nation of corruption. Our situation will not change until we change ourselves. The five daily prayers have not changed us! The month of Ramadaan has not changed us! So when will we change?!!