The Best of You is the Best to His Family – Mustafa George

Be Salafi with Your Family, Just Like You Are Salafi with the Brother

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Indeed our religion has taught us the best of character and mannerisms, and the Prophet Muhammad (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) without a doubt displayed exemplary character to his wives, and children. It is for this reason that if a person claims to be Salafi, he should be diligent in displaying this character and mannerism amongst those who are closest to him; his family.

We ask Allah to allow us to be true followers of the Salaf al Saaleh.

Brief reminder to my brothers and sisters:

The Salaf used to say:

The best of the speech is that which is short and straight to the point.

With this in mind, I will only mention in this reminder a short hadeeth, and a short statement of one of the Imam’s of his time. In this hadeeth and statement, myself and my brothers should realize an area of family life which we have greatly neglected! May Allah forgive us all and guide us to that which is better.

The Hadith:

The Prophet (May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِهِ ، وَأَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِي

“The best of you is the best to his family, and I am the best to my family.” (Jame’ al Tirmidhee)

The Statement of Imam al Showqanee (died 1255) He stated:

فترى الرجل إذا لقي أهله كان أسوأ الناس أخلاقاً وأشجعهم نفساً وأقلهم خيراً، وإذا لقي غير الأهل من الأجانب لانت عريكته وانبسطت أخلاقه وجادت نفسه، وكثر خيره، ولا شك أن من كان كذلك فهو محروم التوفيق، زائغ عن سواء الطريق، نسأل الله السلامة!

You find a man, if he comes into contact with his family, he displays the worst of character, he is prideful, and very little good is seen from him. But if he meets with other people, his disposition is very gentle, his character is very soft, he is very giving, and he displays much good. There is no doubt, this type of individual is from those who have been prevented from good and success, and he is one who has deviated from the correct path. We ask Allah for protection!

Source: Nal al Awtaar (2/246)

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Mustafa George
9th Muharam 1435 | Nov. 12, 2013

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The Great Importance of the Family in Islaam – Abu Muhammad al-Maghribee [Audio|En]

http://followthesalaf.com

Class #01

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This lecture was given on Saturday, December 1, 2012 in Masjid at-Tawheed in Stone Mountain, GA.

With this lecture, we will begin our weekly talk related to the Family in Islaam and related issues (selecting a spouse, raising children, the rights of the parents/child/husband/wife, status of the mother, and much more….).

Class #02

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This class was given on Saturday, December 8, 2012 in Masjid at-Tawheed, Stone Mountain, GA. This was taken from a Friday Khutbah by our sheikh Saaleh al-Fawzaan, hafidhahullah.

Class #03

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This class was given on Saturday, December 15, 2012 in Masjid at-Tawheed, Stone Mountain, GA.This was taken from a Friday Khutbah by our sheikh Saaleh al-Fawzaan, hafidhahullah.

Related Links:

Advice to The Muslim Family – Sheikh Dr. ‘Asim Qaryooti / Mustafa George [Mp3|Ar-En]

Three Golden Advices For The Muslim Family – Shaykh Abdullaah al-Bukhaaree [Audio|Ar-En]

Family Matters: The Muslim Home – Abu Muhammad al Maghribee [Audio|En]

Three Golden Advices For The Muslim Family – Shaykh Abdullaah al-Bukhaaree / Mustafa George [Audio|Ar-En]

Three Golden Advices For The Muslim Family
Shaykh Abdullaah al-Bukhaaree (hafidhahullaah)
[Audio|Arabic-English]

A beneficial sitting with our Shaykh Abdullaah al-Bukhaaree from Madinah, Saudi Arabia on the 6th of December 2012. Three golden advices for the Muslim family…

Listen / Download Mp3 Here  (Time 2:21:11)

 

Family Matters: The Muslim Home – Abu Muhammad al Maghribee [Audio|En]

Family Matters – The Muslim Home
Abu Muhammad al Maghribee (hafidhahullaah)
http://followthesalaf.com/
[Audio|English]

This class was given in Masjid at-Tawheed, Stone Mountain, GA.

In this class we begin a mini-series on the Muslim Home.

Part 01: Listen / Download Mp3 Here (Time 1:07:27) (29/02/2012)

Part 02: Listen / Download Mp3 Here (Time 01:04:09)

Part 03: Listen / Download Mp3 Here (Time 58:04)

Part 04: Listen / Download Mp3 Here (Time 54:38)

“And of his signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and he placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” (Ar-Room: 21)

“And Allaah has made for you from your homes a place of rest…” (An-Nahl: 80)

 The Prophet (Peace be upon him) said: “He who remembers his Lord and he who does not remember his Lord are like the living and the dead.” – Al-Bukhari, cf., Al-Asqalani, Fathul-Bari 11/208; Muslim 1/539 with the wording “The house in which Allah is remembered and the house in which Allah is not remembered is like the living and the dead.”

“Do not make your houses like graveyards; Satan runs away from houses in which the chapter of Al-Baqarah is recited.” (Muslim)

Zaid bin Thabit (May Allah be pleased with him)reported: The Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “O people! perform your (voluntary) Salat (prayers) in your homes because the best Salat of a man is the one he performs at home, except the obligatory Salat.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Ibn `Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: The Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “Observe part of the [Nawafil (voluntary)] Salat (prayers) in your homes. Do not turn your homes into graves.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

“May Allaah have mercy upon the man who wakes up to pray during the night and wakes his wife to pray, and if she does not wake up he splashes water on her face. May Allaah have mercy upon the woman who wakes up to pray during the night and wakes her husband to pray, and if he does not wake up she splashes water on his face.” (Ahmad, Abu Daawood, Nasaa’i & Ibn Maajah).

“All of you are guardians and all of you will be questioned (by Allaah) about your responsibilities …A woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and she will be questioned By Allaah) about her responsibilities (i.e., about her children, property, duties etc.)…” (Bukhaari & Muslim).

Gathering of Knowledge with Shaykh Abdullah Al-Bukhari – Upbringing of Children [Audio|Ar-En]

Gathering of Knowledge with Shaykh Abdullah Al-Bukhari (hafidhahullaah)
Translated by Mustafa George (hafidhahullaah)
[Audio|Arabic-English]

Listen / Download MP3 Here  (Time 2:21:11)

Shaykh Abdullah al-Bukhari gave very beneficial reminder around the hadeeth – “Everyone is a shepherd of his flock”. He highlighted theresponsibilities we all have and that our children reflect up and what we are upon with regards to our religion

(Must Watch) The Happy Life – Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan [Video|Ar-En]

or watch @ http://www.safeshare.tv/w/EvtxNDAZoS

Useful Ways Of Leading A Happy Life – by:Shaykh Abdur-Rahman bin Nasir As-Sa’di
Printed by:The Ministry of Islamic Affairs,Endowments,Da`wah and Guidance Supervised by:The Ministry’s Deputyship for Printing and Publishing Affairs.

Read or Download the Book [English Book] [PDF]

The Rights of The Wife and Children in Islam – Shaykh Muhammed Al Aqeel |Mustafa George [Mp3|Ar-En]

The Rights of The Wife and Children in Islam
Shaykh Muhammad Ibn ‘Abdil-Wahhaab al-’Aqeel
Lectured on Saturday April 3, 2010
Translated by Mustafa George

Listen / Download Mp3: [Duration 1:00:40] [Arabic/English]

“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility  in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy” [Room: 21]

“..and live with them in kindness” [Nisa: 19]

‘From the Dinar (money) that you spent in the path of Allaah, the Dinar that you spent in freeing a slave, the Dinar that you gave in charity to a needy person, and the Dinar you spent on your family, the one that is the greatest in reward is the one that you spent on your family.’ [Collected by Muslim]

‘The most complete of the Believers in their Eemaan are those who have the best manners, and the best of you are those who are best to their women.’[Albaani said in ‘Silsilah Saheehah’ no. 284]

‘Indeed you have rights upon your women and they have rights upon you.’ [Collected by Tirmidhi, declared Hasan by Albaani No.1163]

‘A believing man should not hate a believing woman, if he dislikes a mannerism of hers, he will be pleased with another mannerism.’ [Collected by Muslim]

‘None of you should lash your wife[11] like the lashing of a slave, and then perhaps at night he has intercourse with her.’ [Collected by Bukhari & Muslim]

‘Indeed you do not spend some wealth desiring the Face of Allaah except that you are rewarded for it, even for the food you place in your wife’s mouth.’ [Collected by Bukhari & Muslim]

‘The Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- never ever hit  a servant, or a woman.’[Collected by Muslim]

‘Indeed I love to beautify myself for my wife just like I love that she beautifies herself for me.’ [Collected by al-Bayhaqi]

Advice to The Muslim Family – Sheikh Dr. ‘Asim Qaryooti / Mustafa George [Mp3|Ar-En]

Lecture by Sheikh Dr. ‘Asim Qaryooti (hafidhahullaah)
(Student of Bin Baaz, al Albani, Hamaad al Ansari)
Mustafa George (hafidhahullaah)
[Mp3|Arabic-English]

Listen / Download Mp3: (Duration 115:42)

Note : Tahqeek means to check. It comes from the word haqq. Islamically it means to check that something is grammatically correct, to check a book to make sure the printed text matches the original manuscripts, etc.

Useful Ways of Leading a Happy Life – Imam as Sa’di – Dr Saleh as Saleh [Audio|En]

Based on the Book of Shaykh Abdur Rahman bin Nasr As Sa’di (rahimahullaah)
Dr.Saleh as-Saleh (rahimahullaah) (mp3/english)

There is no doubt that the bliss of the heart, its tranquility and happiness, and the absence of grief and worry from it, is the goal of every individual. It is the means by which a happy,blissful and excellent life is achieved. There are means to achieve this;some of which are religious, some are natural and some are physical.These means are never gathered together except to the believers. The non-believers on the other hand, despite the fact that the earnest endeavours of their philosophers is to lead them to these means, even if they achieve them in certain aspects, they miss the way to them in several other aspects that are more beneficial, more permanent and better in yielding results.

Shaykh Abdur-Rahman bin Nasir As-Sadi `rahimahullah mention in his treatise the ways and means to achieve this lofty goal that is the quest of every individual. He said that some people are successful in following these ways, and therefore live a good and pure life and enjoy their life. Some woefully fail in following any of them, and they live a wretched and miserable life. Others lie between these two extremes;by the level of their following these means, by that level do they live a good life. And it is Allah `azza wa jall that guides to all that is good, and wards off all that is evil, and it is His Help we seek in this.

The Book in Arabic can be read Here

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This book was Published in English by:

Useful Ways Of Leading A Happy Life – by:Shaykh Abdur-Rahman bin Nasir As-Sa’di
Translated by:Bashir Aliyu Umar ; Printed by:The Ministry of Islamic Affairs,Endowments,Da`wah and Guidance ; Supervised by:The Ministry’s Deputyship for Printing and Publishing Affairs.

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Muslim Family II – Shaykh Ali Haddaadi / Mustafa George [Audio|Ar-En]

by  Shaykh Ali Haddaadi
with English translation by Mustafa George on  12-04-2012

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[audio https://salafiaudio.files.wordpress.com/2015/01/muslim-family-ii-shaykh-ali-haddaadi-mustafa-george.mp3]

High-lights:

Last gathering briefing:
  • Rights of Husband and Wife
  • Treating each other good
  • Wife on obeying the husband in that which is right
    • serving the husband
    • responding when husband calls for intimacy except for legislated reasons (eg. if it would increase any sickness, Assalah time would pass etc.)
  • Fulfilling rights should be done in the right manner – eg. without showing dislike (which then is not fulfilling the rights)

SOME CAUSES FOR DIFFERENCES THAT TAKE PLACE IN MARRIAGE:

  • Man or Women did not see properly before marriage – not pleased with the partner’s look
  • They look at one another’s shortcomings and don’t look at the good qualities – a believer should not hate any believer
  • Illness caused by medical reasons like short temper
    • needs overlooking
    • give time
    • discus at later time
  • Illness caused not by medical reasons like
    • jealousy
    • evil eye
    • magic
  • Problems are not dealt with when it occurs – accumulating it
    • need for dealing in calmness
    • need for treating maters done intentionally and by mistake, differently.
  • Non fulfilling the obligatory rights of one another
  • Outside interference – from families etc
    • due to this they should be very cautious of any outside interference especially when it is intended for separation
  • Husband has more than one wife and he does injustice
STEPS FOR RECONCILIATION
For Deficiency with the Husband steps for wife:
  1. Humbly speaking the mater in a nice manner
  2. trustworthy Individuals/ from Family/ who have positive influence to speak to husband
  3. think of  what would be the result of separation – if she finds staying with husband is better (eg due to – old age, children, general benefit of situation) She compromises some of her rights
    • Example from the time of prophet – Sauda bint Zam’a (radiallahu anha), wife of the prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam) – she compromised one of the greatest rights of a female – giving her nights to Aisha (radiallahu anha)
For Deficiency with the wife steps for Husband:
  1. Admonishes, Reminds wife:
    • to fear Allah,
    • Rights of Men over Women. eg. the hadiths :
      • “If I were to order any individual to bow to another, I would order the females to bow to their husband…”
      • “Obedience to the husband is one of the greatest means by which a women can enter into Jannah…” etc
    • Shaykh Mentions: “I donot say these narrations so that the men can approach the wife with opression... But I mention so that the women is well informd of the rights of her Husband over her and that she can fear Allah with regards to her husband. “
  2. Abandon Sleeping with his wife
  3. Hits his wife in a legislated manner.
    • not more than 10 times
    • not in a place that would cause bodily harm
    • should not leave mark etc…
    • the purpose of hitting is to inform that the situation is serious, not to punish or harm her.
PROBLEM STILL PERSISTING:
  • The reconciliation then is very difficult
  • They call someone eg. from his family and her family – that which is legislated is that they call Judge from his side of the family and her family – someone should represent man and women – individuals who have wisdom – strong intellect.
  • they listen to both the parties and gives a ruling after advising with reconciliation
  • if they notice there is no means of reconciliation, then they would advice that they seperate
  • Man merely divorces without payment
  • if Female seeks separation returns mahr for the man
  • And the ruling of the judges should be executed
What is also important is that the men pays close attention to the advice of the prophet salallahu alayhiwasallam with regard to women – the Wasiya – farewell hajj speech
  • “be kind to women..”
  • “she is like a captive with you…” – this should cause the men to be merciful, gentle with the wife.
  • man should not take advantage of women’s weakness and oppress her
  • “the best of you is the best to his wife…”
  • Prophet had issues with his wives and did hijrah for 29 days – but he was gentle, patient and kind to his wife.
  • There is no house free of problem
Man and women should look at the future:
  • the bad results of separation
  • what happens to the children
  • evil outcome of separation in society
  • who would approach after this? (for females)
  • Own family conflicts
But Shaykh mentions:
  • “if there is pure turmoil, anger and aggression in the house and no compassion, then the final step is seperation.”
  • “Talaaq is not always evil”

Post Courtesy : Abu AbdirRahman Rajeef via Email

What a Muslim does with his close relative who is a Mushrik – Shaykh Al-Albaani

The Ahadeeth of Tawheed from the Silsilah Ahadeeth As-Saheehah of Shaykh Al-Albaani
Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya

161- The Messenger of Allaah said to ‘Alee bin Abu Talib: ‘Go and bury your father.’

He said; ‘No, I won’t bury him, because he died as a Mushrik.’

The Messenger said to him: ‘Go and bury him, and don’t speak to anyone until you come to me.’

I came to him and I had signs of dirt and dust upon me. He ordered me to wash, so I washed and he supplicated for me with supplications which would not please me to exchange anything for them on the face of this earth.

From the benefits of the hadeeth

1- That it is permissible for a Muslim to take the responsibilities of burying his close Mushrik relative. This does not negate his hate far his relative’s Shirk.

Do you not see that ‘Alee refused to bury his father the first time. Whereby, he said: ‘he died as a Mushrik‘ thinking that if he buried him then this would enter into being in alliance with his father which is prohibited. Like the saying of Allaah Ta’ala:

<<Take not as friends the people who incurred the Wrath of Allaah >>

When the Messenger ordered him again to bury his father he hastened to fulfill the Messenger’s order. And he left that which seemed to be correct to him the first time. It is also from obedience, that a person leaves his own opinion for the command of his Prophet – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam.

It appears to me that the son burying his Mushrik father or his mother is the last of what the son possesses of good companionship with his Mushrik father in this world. As for after the burial then it is not allowed for him to pray for him, nor seek forgiveness for him, this is due to the clear statement of Allaah Ta’ala:

<<It is not proper for the Prophet and those who believe to ask Allaah’s Forgiveness for the Mushrikeen even though they be of kin>>

So, if this is the case, what is the situation of the one who supplicates for mercy and forgiveness on the pages of newspapers and magazines for some of the Kuffar, announcing their deaths, for a small amount of Dirhams!

The one who is concerned for his hereafter should fear Allaah.

2- It is not legislated for him to wash the unbeliever, nor should he shroud him. And nor should he pray upon him even if he is a close relative, since, the Prophet – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam did not order ‘Alee to do so. If this had been permissible, the Prophet– sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam would have mentioned it, since delaying the explanation of an order when there is a need for it, is not permissible. This is the Madhab of the Hambalees and other than them.

3- It is not legislated for the relatives of that Mushrik to follow the funeral procession. Because the Prophet – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam did not do this for his uncle. His uncle was the kindest and the most compassionate of the people to him. Even to the extent that the Prophet supplicated to Allaah for him, whereby his uncle’s punishment will be the least in the Hellfire, as has been previously explained.

And in all of this there is a lesson for those people who have been deceived by their ancestry, but they do not do any thing for their hereafter with their Lord, and Allaah the Great spoke the truth when He said:

<< There will be no kinship among them that Day, nor will they ask of one another >>

‘And Live With Them in Kindness’

‘And Live With Them in Kindness’

Compiled and Translated By Abbas Abu Yahya

1 -Allaah Ta’ala said:

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً

<< And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility[1] in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy[2]. >> [Room: 21]

2 -Allaah Ta’ala said:

وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ

<< and live with them in kindness[3]>>[4] [Nisa: 19]

3 – From Abu Hurairah Radi Allaahu anhuthat Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam said:

 دينار أنفقته في سبيل الله ، ودينار تصدقت به في رقبة ، ودينار تصدقت به على مسكين ، ودينار أنفقته على أهلك . أعظمها أجرا الذي أنفقته على أهلك

‘From the Dinar (money) that you spent in the path of Allaah, the Dinar that you spent in freeing a slave, the Dinar that you gave in charity to a needy person, and the Dinar you spent on your family, the one that is the greatest in reward is the one that you spent on your family.’[5]

4 – From Abu Hurairah Radi Allaahu anhuthat Prophet sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam said:

إن أكمل المؤمنين إيماناً أحسنهم خُلقاً، وخياركم خياركم لنسائكم

‘The most complete of the Believers in their Eemaan are those who have the best manners[6], and the best of you[7] are those who are best to their women.’[8]

5 – From ‘Amr bin al-Ahwaas from the Prophet sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam who said:

أَلاَ إِنَّ لَكُمْ عَلَى نِسَائِكُمْ حَقًّا وَلِنِسَائِكُمْ عَلَيْكُمْ حَقًّا

‘Indeed you have rights upon your women and they have rights upon you.’[9]

6 – From Abu Hurairah Radi Allaahu anhuwho said that the Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam said:

‫لا يَفْرَكْ مُؤْمِنٌ مُؤْمِنَةً إِنْ كَرِهَ مِنْهَا خُلُقًا رَضِيَ مِنْهَا آخَرَ

 ‘A believing man should not hate a believing woman, if he dislikes a mannerism of hers, he will be pleased with another mannerism.’[10]

7 – From Abdullaah bin Zamah Radi Allaahu anhu that the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:

يعمد أحدكم فيجلد امرأته جلد العبد فلعله يضاجعها من أخر يومه

‘None of you should lash your wife[11] like the lashing of a slave, and then perhaps at night he has intercourse with her.’[12]

8 – From Sa’ad bin Abi Waqqas Radi Allaahu anhu that the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:

إِنَّكَ لَنْ تُنْفِقَ نَفَقَةً تَبْتَغِي بِهَا وَجْهَ اللَّهِ إِلا أُجِرْتَ عَلَيْهَا ، حَتَّى فِي اللُّقْمَةِ تَرْفَعُهَا إِلَى فِي امْرَأَتِكَ

‘Indeed you do not spend some wealth desiring the Face of Allaah except that you are rewarded for it, even for the food you place in your wife’s mouth.’[13]

9 –  ‘Aeysha Radi Allaahu anha said:

ما ضرب صلى الله عليه وسلم بيده خادما قط و لا امرأة

‘The Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam never ever hit[14] a servant, or a woman.’[15]

10 – Ibn Abbas Radi Allaahu anhu said:

‘Indeed I love to beautify myself for my wife just like I love that she beautifies herself for me.’[16]

11 – From Abdullaah bin ‘Amr Radi Allaahu anhu the Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam said:

كفى بالمرء إثماً أن يضيع من يقوت

‘It is sufficient as a sin upon a man that he does not take responsibility over those he is responsible for.’[17]

12- From Ibn Umar Radi Allaahu anhu the Messenger of Allaah said:

إن أعظم الذنوب عند الله رجل تزوج امرأة فلما قضى حاجته منها طلقها وذهب بمهرها ، ورجل استعمل رجلا فذهب بأجرته ، وآخر يقتل دابة عبثا

 ‘Indeed the greatest of sins to Allaah are that a man marries a woman and when he has satisfied his need from her, he divorces her and goes off with her dowry.  And that a man employs another man and goes off with his salary and that a person kills his riding animal frivolously.’[18]

13- From Mu’aweeyah bin Haydah Radi Allaahu anhu who said:

‘I asked the Messenger of Allaah what is the right that the wife has upon one of us?

The Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam said:

أن تطعمها إذا طعمت وتكسوها إذا اكتسيت ولا تضرب الوجه ولا تقبح ولا تهجر إلا في البيت

‘That you feed her when you eat, and clothe her when you clothe yourself,[19] and do not hit her on her face and do not say may Allaah deface you,[20] and do not keep away from her except in the home[21].’[22]

In another wording from Bahz Hakeem from his father, with the wording: He said: ‘I had said: O Prophet of Allaah, regarding our wives, what should we do and what should we be cautioned from?’

The Messenger said:

حرثك ، إئت حرثك أنى شئت غير أن لا تضرب الوجه ، ولا تقبح ، ولا تهجر إلا في البيت ، وأطعم إذا طعمت ، واكس إذا اكتسيت ، كيف وقد أفضى بعضكم إلى بعض ، ( بما حل عليه)

‘She is your tilth, come to your tilth as you please, except that you do not strike her face, nor say may Allaah make you ugly, nor keep away from her except in the house, and feed her when you eat, and clothe her when you clothe yourself, and how can you not since you have gone in unto each other, except with what she has been made permissible for you.’[23]

13- From al-Miqdam bin Ma’dee Karib al-Kindi that the Prophet sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam stood amongst the people and praised Allaah and exalted Him and said:

إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا، إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا، فَإِنَّهُنَّ أُمَّهَاتُكُمْ وَبَنَاتُكُمْ وَخَالاتُكُمْ، إِنَّ الرَّجُلَ مِنْ أَهْلِ الْكِتَابِ يَتَزَوَّجُ الْمَرْأَةَ وَمَا تُعَلِّقُ يَدَاهَا الْخَيْطَ، فَمَا يَرْغَبُ وَاحِدٌ مِنْهُمَا عَنْ صَاحِبِهِ حَتَّى يَمُوتَا هَرَمًا

‘Indeed Allaah advices[24] you in the strongest possible terms to be good to women, indeed Allaah advices you in the strongest possible terms to be good to women, advices you in the strongest possible terms with regards to women, indeed they are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your paternal aunts (father’s sisters) and your maternal aunts (mother’s sisters).  Indeed a man from the people of the two books (Jews & Christians) marries a woman and does not hit her, each one of them continues to desire his companion until he dies in old age.’

Abu Salmah said I narrated this hadeeth to al-Ala bin Sufyaan al-Ghassanee who said:

‘Indeed it has reached me that from the evil hidden sins which Allaah has made Haraam, which are not clearly mentioned in the Qur’aan, are that a man marries a woman and when his companion becomes old and she has stayed with him for a long time, and has produced all that her womb can, then he divorces her without any reason to do so.’[25]

14 – Shaykh AbdurRahman bin Nasr as-Sa’adi (d. 1376 A.H.) said:

‘Allaah Ta’ala said regarding dealings:

<< And do not forget liberality between yourselves. >> [Baqarah: 227]

Which means, make a place for excellence and Ihsaan in your dealings.  Do not take all your rights, rather make things easy and do not make them difficult, and be pardoning in buying and selling, in settling a debt and times of need.  And whoever necessitates upon himself this goodness achieves a lot of good and great good. And Allaah Knows best.’[26]


[1] Shaykh Rabee’ ibn Haadee al-Madkhali said: ‘This Ayaah confirmed the blessing of living together in tranquillity since Allaah placed love and mercy between the husband and wife. Verily this blessing of living together in tranquillity cannot be achieved except if it is in an atmosphere which is surrounded and fragranced by love and mercy.’

[Taken from: ‘al-Haqooq wal-Waajibat . . . . p.19]

[2] Shaykh AbdurRahman bin Nasr as-Sa’adi (d. 1376 A.H.) said:

‘From those signs that indicate Allaah’s Mercy and His concern for His slaves, and His great Wisdom and His all-Encompassing knowledge is << that He created for you from yourselves mates >> whom are suited to you and you are suited for them, and they are similar to you and you are similar to them.

<<that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy.>> with what results from marriage is a means that causes love and mercy, so a person receives enjoyment and pleasure from the wife and the benefit of the presence of offspring and educating them, and finds tranquility with them and generally you do not find amongst people the like of the love and mercy found between husband and wife.’

[‘Tayseer al-Kareem ar-Rahman fee Tafseer Kalam al-Mannan’ 6/p.97]

[3] Shaykh Muhammed bin Salih al-Uthaymeen (d.1421 A.H.) said:

‘Living with them: means companionship and dealings, so a person deals with her in a good way and likewise to have good companionship with her.’

[Sharh Riyadh as-Saliheen’ 3/114]

[4] al-Hafidh Emaad ad-Deen Isma’eel Ibn Katheer (d. 774 A.H.) -Rahimullaah-  said: ‘This means, speak to them in a good way and make your actions and your appearance  good as much as you can, just like you would love that from your partner, then you should deal with her as you would like to be dealt with, as Allaah Ta’ala said: << And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses, etc.) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect, etc.) to what is reasonable,>> and the Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam said: ‘and the best of you are those who are best to their women.’ And from the Messenger’s mannerisms was that he would live with his wives in a beautiful way, always smiling, being playful with his family and being gentle with them, and spending on them and making his women laugh.’ [Taken from: ‘Tafseer al-Qur’aan al-Atheem’ 1/608]

[5] Collected by Muslim

[6] Shaykh Albaani said: ‘Good manners: sacrificing to do good deeds, preventing harm and having a cheerful face.’

[Riyadh as-Saliheen p. 159]

[7]  Shaykh Uthaymeen said: ‘Regarding the saying of the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam: ‘The best of you . . .’ This person is the best of the people, he is the best of them to his wife. So if you have any goodness, then make that goodness for the closest of the people to you, and make it so that your wife is the first to benefit from this good.

And this is the opposite of what some people do today, you find that he has bad manners with his wife, and has good behavior with other people, and this is a great mistake.

Your wife has the most right to good behavior, and having the best manners to them, because she is the one who is with you day and night, openly and secretly.  If you are afflicted with something she is afflicted along with you, and if your happy, she is happy along with you, if your sad, she is sad along with you, therefore you should make your dealings with her better than your dealings with strangers, so the best of the people are those who are best of them to their wives.

I ask Allaah to complete my Eemaan and that of the Muslims, and that he makes us the best of the slaves of Allaah to our wives and upon those who have a right upon us. [Taken from: ‘Explanation of Riyadh as-Saliheen’ 3/134]

[8] Albaani said in ‘Silsilah Saheehah’ no. 284, ‘it is from the hadeeth of Abu Hurairah Radi Allaahu anhucollected by Tirmidhi and Ahmad and the first part of the hadeeth is collected by Abu Dawood, Ibn Abee Shaybah in ‘al-Musannaf’, Abu Na’eem in ‘al-Hileeyah’ and Haakim and he said it is Saheeh upon the conditions of Muslim and Dhahabi agreed with him.’

[9] Collected by Tirmidhi, declared Hasan by Albaani No.1163

[10] Collected by Muslim

[11] Shaykh Uthaymeen said: ‘He lashes his wife like he lashes any other person as if there was no relationship between him and his wife, and as if she is a captive slave, helper to him.  This is not befitting because the relationship between a man and his wife is a special relationship, which must be built upon love, compassion, and keeping far away from evil, whether it is in speech or in action.

As for lashing her like lashing a slave, then at night to have intercourse with her, then how is it possible that you have intercourse with her at night with love, and then take pleasure and desire from her and you had lashed her like the lashing of a slave? !

This is a contradiction; this is why the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- rebuked this action. It is not befitting that this occurs from a human being, and the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- spoke the truth, indeed this does not befit an intelligent person more over a believer.’ [Taken from: ‘Sharh Riyadh as-Saliheen’ 3/119]

[12] Collected by Bukhari & Muslim

[13] Collected by Bukhari & Muslim

[14] Shaykh AbdulMuhsin al-Abbad al-Badr said about this hadeeth in his explanation of Sunnan Abi Dawood:

‘The compiler mentions the hadeeth of ‘Aeysha Radi Allaahu anha:

‘That the Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam never ever hit a servant, or a woman.’

That was because of his noble manners, he was forgiving and he sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam would live with his wives in a good way. An incident of hitting a servant, from those servants who used to serve him, never occurred.  He sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam never hit any of his wives, rather he was gentle, merciful, forgiving and he sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam love and gentleness.  This indicates to his sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam perfect mannerisms, even though there perhaps may have occurred transgression and matters by which some servants warranted reprimanding, however the Prophet’s sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam character and his way was gentle, forgiving and pardoning in his matters.’

[15] Collected by Muslim

[16] Collected by al-Bayhaqi

[17] Collected by Ahmad, Nisa’ee, Hakim & Albaani declared it ‘Hasan Lighayrihi’ in ‘Saheeh Targheeb wa Tarheeb’ Vol.2 No.1965

[18] Collected by Hakim & al-Bayhaqi. Albaani said in ‘Silsilah Saheehah’ no. 999 and Saheeh al-Jamia’ 1567 [Hasan]

[19] Shaykh Uthaymeen said: regarding the saying of the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam-  ‘that you feed her when you eat, and clothe her when you clothe yourself,’ Which means, do not specify clothing yourself without taking a concern in clothing her, nor feeding yourself and not feeding her.  Rather she is your partner, it is obligatory to spend on her as you spend upon yourself, so much so that many of the scholars say: ‘If a man does not spend on his wife, and she requests a divorce from the judge, then it is upon the judge to cancel the marriage, due to the husband being deficient about her right which is obligatory for her.’ [Explanation of Riyad as-Saliheen 3/131]

[20] Shaykh Uthaymeen said: ‘Regarding the saying of the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam: ‘do not call her ugly. . .’ It means do not say you are ugly, or say: may Allaah disfigure your face.  What is included in this prohibition of calling her ugly is the prohibition of claiming she is ugly whether it is tangible or (in meaning) intangible. So do not say: ‘You are from a unnoble tribe, or from an evil family etc.’ all of this is from claiming she is ugly which Allaah has prohibited.’ [Explanation of Riyad as-Saliheen 3/132]

Hafidh al-Mundhari said: ‘It means do not say disliked things to her, and do not curse her.’ [‘Saheeh Targheeb wa Tarheeb’ 2/p.411]

[21] Shaykh Albaani said: ‘Except if it is necessary, due to it being established when the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – made Hijrah (boycotted) from his wives due to a drink that he took outside the home’

[Riyad as-Saliheen p.159]

[22] Collected by Ahmad, Ibn Hibban al-Albaani ‘Saheeh Targheeb wa Tarheeb’ No.1929 & he declared it to be Saheeh.

[23] Collected by Ahmad, Abu Dawood & Albaani declared the Sanad to be Hasan in ‘Irwaa al-Ghaleel’ 7/p.98

[24] In the explanation of the word Waseeyah: ‘and I strongly advise you to be good to women’ which means: accept my advice regarding women, and act upon it, be patient with them, be gentle with them and be good to them.’

[Taken from: ‘al-Mufhim lima Ashkal min Talkhees Kitab Muslim’ by Umar bin Ibraheem al-Qurtoobi]

[25] Collected by Ibn ‘Aasakir in ‘Tareekh Dimishq’ from Yahya bin Jabir.

[26] ‘Bahtaja al-Qaloob al-Abraar wa Qarat Ayoon al-Akhbar’- No. 61 p.120

Eating collectively from a single plate – Shaykh Ibn al-’Uthaymeen

Al-Wahshiyyi ibn Harb radiallaahu ‘anhu related that some of the Companions of Allaah’s Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said:

O Messenger of Allaah! We eat, but do not become satisfied.

So he said to them: “Perhaps you eat separately?”

So they replied: Yes.

So he said: “Eat your food collectively, mention the Name of Allaah upon it, then there will be blessings for you in it.”[1]

Shaykh Ibn al-‘Uthaymeen said:

This indicates that it is essential to eat collectively from a single plate. So if there are five or ten people, they should eat collectively from a single dish, depending upon the situation. Indeed, doing so is a cause for barakah (blessings) to descend, whilst eating separately is a cause for barakah to depart.”[2]

[1] Hasan: Related by Abu Daawood (no.3764). It was authenticated by al-Haafidh al-‘lraaqee in his Takhreejul-lhyaa (214).
[2] Sharh Riyaadhus-Saaliheen (7/231) of Ibn al-‘Uthaymeen.

Source for the above: Al-Istiqaamah Newsletter, Shawwaal 1418H / February 1998 ,Issue No.8

The following is taken from Imam Al-Nawawi’s Riyad-us-Saliheen Chapter 107 :

745. `Abdullah bin Busr (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) had a large bowl called Al-Gharra’, which would be carried by four men. One day, when the Companions finished their Duha (forenoon optional) prayer, Al-Gharra’ was brought full of sopped bread, meat and broth, and they sat down around it. When their number increased, Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) sat down on his knees and rested on the soles of his feet. A bedouin said to him: “What sort of sitting is that?” Thereupon Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “Verily, Allah has made me a courteous slave not a fierce tyrant.” Then he said, “Eat from the sides of the bowl and leave the central part of it so that your food will be blessed.” [Abu Dawud].

Family Photographs for the sake of remembrance – Permanent Committee

First question from Fatwa No. 2296

Q 1: What is the ruling on taking photographs for the whole family and others for the sake of remembrance and amusement only?

A: Photographing living beings is prohibited and one of the major sins whether a photographer considers it to be their job or not and whether it is a drawing, photograph or sculpture. Keeping these photographs, pictures or sculptures for remembrance or any other purpose will not change its ruling as there are many Hadiths reported in this regard. These Hadiths are general for all kinds of Taswir (drawing, photographing and sculpturing). Nothing is exempted from this ruling except what is necessarily required.

May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions!

Fatwa no. ( 4636 ): Q: I want to describe to you something that people have adopted as a recent custom. Since around 1390 A.H. approximately, people have become accustomed to arranging wedding ceremonies, during which they take the bride and the bridegroom home in a procession and then take many photos of them and their families. These photos are then distributed among the relativesand friends as gifts. Weddings are now seen as incomplete without this custom, except by less than one percent of the population, although it is refuted by sound reason. What is the religious opinion on this? Please advise us – and may Allah enlighten you – through broadcasts, in newspapers, or “Da`wah (calling to Islam) Magazine.” However, if you answer me through the magazine, please cite irrefutable evidence, whether of its prohibition or permissibility. May Allah protect you.

A: What you mentioned regarding taking photos of the bride, the bridegroom, and their families during wedding ceremonies is Haram (prohibited) and is one of the bad wedding customs. This is so, because taking pictures of beings with a soul is absolutely Haram and a major sin. The basic ruling concerning making pictures of beings with souls, such as human beings and animals, is that it is Haram, whether the pictures are three-dimensional; drawings on paper, material, walls, or anywhere else; or photographs, as based on a Sahih (authentic) Hadith related from the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him). He prohibited it, cursed those who do so and then threatened them with a painful torment. As pictures can be a means to Shirk (associating others in worship with Allah), he did this to safeguard people from standing before them, submitting to them, trying to draw near to them, and extolling them in a manner that befits only Allah (Exalted be He). It was also prevented as it amounts to imitating Allah’s Creation; and due to the Fitnah (temptation) that some pictures, such as those of actresses, semi-naked women, beauty queens, and the like contain.

Among the Hadith that show that taking pictures is prohibited and indicate that it is a major sin is the Hadith reported on the authority of Ibn `Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both), who said that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, Those who make these pictures will be punished on the Day of Resurrection and it will be said to them, ‘Give life to what you created.’ Recorded by Al-Bukhary and Muslim. There is also the Hadith narrated by `Abdullah ibn Mas`ud (may Allah be pleased with him) who said that he heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) say, The people who will receive the severest punishment on the Day of Resurrection will be those who made pictures. Recorded by Al-Bukhary and Muslim. There is also the Hadith reported by Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) who said that he heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) saying, Allah (may He be Exalted) said: “Who is worse than someone who tries to create a creation like Mine? Let them create an atom, a grain of wheat, or a grain of barley.” Reported by Al-Bukhary and Muslim. And the Hadith reported by `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) who said, The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) came to me after a journey, and I had screened my alcove with a curtain on which there were pictures. When the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) saw it, the color of his face changed (due to anger) and he said, ‘O `A’ishah! The people who will receive the severest punishment on the Day of Resurrection will be those who imitate Allah’s Creation.’ So we tore it up and we made a cushion or two cushions from it. Recorded by Al-Bukhary and Muslim. (The alcove that was screened by the curtain was an arched opening in the wall.) There is also a Hadith narrated by Ibn `Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) who said that he heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) saying, Anyone who makes pictures in this world will be assigned to breathe a soul into them on the Day of Resurrection, but will not be able to breathe. Recorded by Al-Bukhary and Muslim. There is yet another Hadith reported by him that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, Every image-maker will be in the Fire. Every picture that they made will be given a soul and will torment them in Hell.

Ibn `Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) added, If you must do it, make pictures of trees and that which has no soul. Recorded by Al-Bukhary and Muslim. And there is another Hadith reported by Abu Juhayfah who said about the Prophet (peace be upon him) that He cursed those who accept Riba (usury), those who give it, and he cursed the image-makers. Recorded by Imam Al-Bukhary in his Sahih [Book of Authentic Hadith]).

The general meaning of these Hadith is that making pictures of anything that has a soul is absolutely prohibited. However, it is permissible to make pictures of objects without a soul, such as trees, the sea, mountains, and the like, as mentioned by Ibn `Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both), and it is not known that any of the Sahabah (Companions) refuted what he said. This is understood from the following phrase that was mentioned in the Hadith of the threat to Give life to what you created. And also these words in the Hadith: Will be assigned to breathe a soul into them on the Day of Resurrection, but will not be able to breathe.

May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions!

Permanent Committee for Scholarly Research and Ifta’

Source : alifta.com – Browse by volume number > The first group > Volume 1 (`Aqidah 1) > Creeds > Taswir >

Establish the Deen in Your Self and Your family and Then call others to it – Shaykh Saalih as-Sindee

Bismillaah Al-Hamdulillaah

[The following represents much of the notes from Shaykh Saalih as-Sindee‘s heart-felt nasihah, obtained from salaficast.net]

After praising Allaah, and sending the salaam upon the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam), the sahaba, and those who follow them until the Day of Judgment, the shaykh then greeted the Muslims with “as-salamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,” and then welcomed to Madinah a group of Muslims in front of him, and gave glad tidings to them for what they set out for: to visit the haramain, and for packing their bags and travelling to seek knowledge. And he made a du’aa to Allaah to give them and us jannah.

Allaah said in surat Ash-Shura: He (Allaah) has ordained for you the same religion (Islam) which He ordained for Nuh (Noah), and that which We have inspired in you (O Muhammad), and that which We ordained for Ibrahim (Abraham), Musa (Moses) and ‘Iesa (Jesus) saying you should establish religion and make no divisions in it (religion). …(Ash-Shura 42:13)

Look at this command from Allaah (subhanahu wa taa’ala). In this ayah is a command that Allaah gave to ulul ‘azaam, the five Messengers of great determination, and they are Nuh, Muhammad, Ibrahmn, Musa and ‘Iesa. Allaah commanded them with these two things: to establish the religion and not divide. So this ayah requires, ya ikhwan, that we look at this command, and that we open our ears and hearts and minds so we can understand and implement.

The first affair is Iqqamat u-Deen, establishing the religion.

Iqqamat u-Deen means we should establish the religion in ourselves first, be upright, then help others to be upright in the Deen. The first issue – and it is the most important – is that we establish Islam in ourselves first. This establishing the religion in ourselves requires that one implement the Tawheed of Allaah, and this comes about in three levels: the first is that one implements the base level, which is one leaves shirk and kufr, and moves into Islam. This level itself has three levels: belief in the heart, saying upon tongue the shahadatain [la illaaha il Allaah Muhammad RasulAllaah], and then he should do action that supports his claim.

The next level is implementing that which is wajib from Tawheed. The one who implements and completes that which is wajib then also does and fulfills that which he is commanded and leaves off the prohibitted. Thirdly, doing the mustahaabat (recommended) and leaving off the makruhat (disliked) even though it may not be haram, and likewise he leaves off the doubtful matters.

Talking about these levels is easier said than done. The base level is Tawheed; to remove oneself from kufr (disbelief) is easy for one to do, but to rise to the second level and then the third level is not easy. One must have extreme patience. If one reaches it, then he enters the Jannah (Paradise) – and will not be taken to account. As you all know by reading Kitab at-Tawheed, you have come across the proofs of the one who implements [completes and applies] Tawheed, then he enters into Jannah without accounting.

The first affair is that you learn the Deen. It’s not possible to establish the religion until you learn the religion. How can you establish Islam in yourself if you do not know what Islam is? For that reason, the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said: “Whoever Allaah wants good for, Allaah gives him understanding of the Deen.”

Seeking knowledge has to be done in a certain way. Many of the people love knowledge and love to listen to knowledge, but because they have not done so systematically (correctly), their gains of knowledge is little. So the correct way to seek the knowledge of this religion is to begin with the Mega Principles of that science and then, after mastering these big principles, following the smaller principles, then the branches of knowledge, the more detailed affairs. This is how one gains knowledge. But as it relates to the actual topic of seeking knowledge, this is a long topic and will be dealt with on another day inshaAllaah.

The second thing required to establish Islam in himself is that he nurtures himself, cultivates himself and gets himself used to the obedience of Allaah (subhanahu wa taa’ala). Break yourself as it relates to obeying Allaah, in following His commands. That’s because if you don’t push yourselves to do good, then your nafs will overtake you until you fall little by little into corruption, such as leaving off the wajibat or doing the impremissible, and this is a dangerous stage as this is the stage of the people threatened with the punishment of Allaah.

That is because we are like a baby; if you leave it (a baby) to suckle on his mother, he would love to do this and he willl not be weaned until you force him to be weaned. Likewise, the adults, if you let your nafs do what it wants, it will get used to it. But if you wean it, you will eventually [adapt] fall in line.

For this reason, brothers and sisters, we have to strive against ourselves to be the best we can be, raise ourselves upon the obedience of Allaah and to be upon good character, and strive to be better today than we were yesterday, and tomorrow better than today. The salaf used to say that whoever finds that his two days are the same, then he is maghdum (he has cheated himself), because he wasted a day. If you learn something new, strive to implement it immediately.

You have to get yourself used to worshipping Allaah (subhanahu wa taa’ala). You should have a portion of the night for praying, a portion of the [week] for fasting, making adhkar in the morning, at night, before going to bed, worshipping Allaah. The issue here is that we implement what we learn.

We find that many people enter into the Deen of Allaah and they love to be around knowledge and the students of knowledge, and get themselves used to going here and there [for lessons], but they have not cultivated themselves to eeman. They have not cultivated themselves to the ‘ibaada of Allaah. You find that their portion of really having eeman is really small. So you find that when the wind of fitan blows, many of these people fall back on their heels, and some of them even leave Islam.

This life is as Allaah (subhanahu wa taa’ala) described it in the Qur’an, mataa’ ghurur – something one can be fooled by. It is just a short period of time. The Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said: mali wali dunya (“What do I have to do with this world? My relationship with this world is like that of a traveler…who seeks shade under a tree…then moves on.”) Meaning that shade is just like the dunya.

So this life is just a few breaths, then it’s over. And in the next life, there are only two abodes: Paradise and Hellfire. And what you do in this life will determine your abode in the next life. You have the ability to determine which path you want. The path of the people of the good and bad – jazza bi makuntu ta’laamun (as a reward for what you used to do).

It is upon every individual to strive against himself and be firm in obedience and leave off disobedience, but it becomes more emphasized in the places where fitan (trials and tribulations) are prevelant. More emphasized in the places. Any time a person lives among the kufaar (disbelievers), where the fitan are many, he has to increase his protection against these fitan. He has to strive harder to pray at night and fast – he has to. In the land of the kufaar, he must be stronger. He has to make his relationhsip with the Qur’an stronger in the land of the kufaar. Shaytan there is stronger and more diligent, and this [Muslim] individual has to put a barrier between him and that evil. Get your ammunition together against those things and put up your protective barrier against those things that are going to go to war against your eeman, and put them up against those things that will try to weaken your eeman or try to destroy it.

Remain steadfast upon worshipping Allaah when the obedient are few and the disobedient to Allaah are many. The person who does this has a great reward with Allaah, because the Messenger of Allaah (salallaahu ‘alaihiwasallam) said, “Worship performed during time of harj is like making hijra to me (the Prophet).” The one who worships during harj (times when killing, fitna, and fear is widespread, and those who obey Allaah are few, and those who disobey Allaah are many) his reward is like the one who made hijrah to the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihiwasallam) – a reward that only some of the companions (the Muhajjirun) received.

It is upon the individual to remain steadfast on the obedience of Allaah. The one who does this and strives to worship Allaah, his reward is greater than the one who everything around him assists him in worshipping Allaah (like here in Madinah, where you hear the adhaan, you stop and pray in the masjid to the end of it). The one who obeys Allaah where the reasons to disobey Allaah are many and the bad places are many, and the bad companions are many. The one who controls himself when everyone else is disobeying Allaah, he reads a mushaf, directs himself to the Qiblah.

From those things that assists the individual in establishing Islam in himself in his obedience to Allaah is his home, his family (a spouse, children, proper environment, far from what Allaah dislikes), as the husband should steer his wife in a correct direction, he should want good for her as he wants for himself since she is his wife and the mother of his children. This also helps him. The effect the woman has on her husband is great. If she is saliha (righteous), wants to learn the Deen, give da’wah, and the likes, then he likewise will do the same; and the opposite is true. Likewise, he has to take extreme concern for the children, especially where you brothers are from [land of the kufaar] – where the trials and tribulations come from every angle. We have to take extreme and diligent concern for the children.

Many of the youth have some concern for the da’wah, and spend much time giving da’wah, yet they are negligent of those nearest to them, the people of their home.

Allaah says: And enjoin As-Salat on your family, and be patient upon that… (Ta-Ha – 20:132)

The people who have the most right to your knowledge, time, and attempts at rectification are those closest to you – the people of your home, your wife and children. And you will benefit from this, since they have an effect upon you, as mentioned earlier. This is as it relates to (Iqqamat-a-Deen) establishing the religion within ourselves.

Now we look at establishing the religion with other than ourselves, and this is comprised of two categories: Muslims, and disbelievers (non-Muslims):

– We should establish the religion on the Muslims, whom we should give da’wah, attempt to direct to the right Path, advise them, command them to good and forbid them from evil in a beautiful manner and a style that is beloved because the purpose is that the da’wah is accepted.

This issue of giving da’wah to Muslims themselves requires us to advise them. The Messenger of Allaah (salallaahu ‘alaihiwasallam) said: “None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.”

Especially, in the du’aat (those who give da’wah) and students of knowledge, you find that there is a lack in giving advise to one another. You find that they’ve been close for years upon years, yet not once has one said to the other “baarakaAllaahu fik, ya akhee; perhaps you should do this this way.” We should love good for our brother and not want them to fall into [even] one mistake. That would lead to our community being one that is built upon khair (goodness).

The Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihiwasallam) said: “The strongest handhold of eeman is to love for Allaah and hate for Allaah.” This issue of love for Allaah is not just a statement. It has requirements. From the greatest of those requirements is that two (who claim they love each other for Allaah’s sake) advise one another, taking one by the hand away from the disobedience of Allaah and advising him, and vice versa. This is the true love. As for the saying of some that they love each other for Allaah’s sake and they are laughing, talking about (other than the Deen) and not advising each other, this is a weak love. This advise and level of respect should reach a point that if I see my brother fall into something, that not advising that brother who needs it should prevent you from sleeping at night, worrying about him, thinking, “how can I not have advised my brother.”

In a hadeeth Qudsee: Allaah said: “My love is obligatory for those who love each other for My sake.”

– And we should also establish the religion on the non-Muslims:

Allaah revealed this Deen to be general for all of mankind and Jinn. For this reason, you find the first command of the Qur’an is [you can open your mushaf right now]: Oh mankind (all of mankind), worship the Lord Who created you. (Al-Baqarah 2:21) This is the first command in the Qur’an, and this is for all of mankind. And the first prohibition is: Then do not set up rivals unto Allaah (in worship) while you know (that He Alone has the right to be worshipped). (Al-Baqarah 2:22) The first command is Tawheed, and the first prohibition is shirk (setting up partners to Allaah).

This is the true meaning of La illaaha il Allaah Muhammad RasulAllaah.

This call is for all of mankind to worship Allaah alone, and to make that worship sincere for Allaah – and Allaah alone. Allaah did not say here: Oh you who believe. He said: Oh Mankind.

The one who has not entered into the fold of Islam, it is his right upon us that we call him to Islam. We must strive to establish the proofs, and have this Deen conveyed to every single individual, and this is from the most important issues.

Oh brothers, this kaafir (disbeliever) you see in front of you. Do you know what his abode is? Right now, you see him, eating, drinking, walking, etc… If his soul was separated from his body, his abode would be the hellfire forever on top of forever on top of forever. Upon him is the curse of Allaah, the angels and all of mankind.

There are three feelings we should have when seeing a kaafir:

1- You recognize the fadhl (blessing) upon you that Allaah guided you to Islam. Allaah had (has) the ability to make you be in his position, from among the people in a church worshipping a cross, instead of making you a Muslim in the Prophet’s Masjid. This has to make you love Allaah. We should also have hope in Allaah. This has to make you have hope in Allaah, that the One who wants good for you in this world that He wants good for you in the akhira. We should also fear Allaah; our hearts are between the fingers of Ar-Rahman. He turns the hearts as He pleases. [The shaikh recited a poem of Ibnul Qayyim (rahimahullaah): make for your heart two eyes, both these eyes make them cry from fear of Allaah. If your Lord had wished, He would have made you like them. And the hearts are between the fingers of Ar-Rahman.]

2- Also that you hate the kaafir for the sake of Allaah, from that which eeman requires of you, as Allaah commands: Oh you who believe, do not take My enemies and your enemies as helpers in opposition to Allaah

3- Also have pity on him, because this miskeen (sad individual), if he were to die upon [his state] after having received the message of Islam, then indeed he would be among the inhabitants of the hellfire. For that reason, we have to have in our hearts some type of mercy and pity and concern for those who have gone astray and those who disbelieve.

So for these reasons, it is upon us to be diligent and work hard to get them to enter Islam to (help) save them from the punishment of Allaah, should they die upon what they’re upon. Some [of the Muslims] are lazy in this regard. They say, “These people are kufaar, so what about them, forget about them, their hearts are sealed.” So they don’t strive to give them da’wah. This is wrong. Many of the people who have entered into the Deen of Al-Islam, Wallaahi [the shaykh swore by Allaah], we find that there’s nothing but half-an-hour (30 minutes) between them being a disbeliever and them entering Islam.

Wallaahi [the shaikh again swore by Allaah], it is upon us to seek Allaah’s assistance in opening the hearts of these people, advising them, calling them to the truth in a way that is better, in a way that is more likely to be accepted by them. It is upon us to have something in our hearts [in the way of] being eager to see the people guided.

Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal (rahimahullaah) said: “I wouldn’t mind myself be cut up with scissors if it would help the people being guided to the Deen of Allaah.” He made himself rakhisa. In other words, he would rather see himself cut up if by that, it would help the people be guided to Islam.

I am amazed at people who may have a neighbor who is kaafir, or a colleague at work, or a customer [upon kufr]. I am amazed at those brothers who don’t have anything in their hearts to help them be guided to Islam. Only a few steps or breaths separate him (the kaafir) and the fire. Ya ikhwan, give this person da’wah! Maybe, Allaah will guide him at your hands.

Right now, we have a great opportunity. The Media left and right is talking about Islam, Islam, Islam. People want to know about Islam from you, and not just from the media, because they see you as a speaker from the inside. We should take this opportunity to teach people about Islam, and use this opportunity. There are people who want to know Islam more than they ever wanted to know.

Do you know the reward that you get by Allaah (subhanahu wa taa’ala) guiding one person by your hands?

The Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said, “By Allaah, for Allaah to guide by your hands one individual is better for you than the red camels.” The red camels were the most expensive, valuable type of wealth they had [then]. For Allaah to guide one person by your hands is greater for you than the greatest wealth in this world. It is better for you than palaces, cars.

Da’wah is in need of perseverance. You will not find a red carpet, or a path laid out with roses, and the people glorifying you to the end of it. It is a path that requires great patience and perseverance.

I heard about a da’ee (caller) in Egypt. He freed himself – free his time up – to write to people about Islam by way of mail. At one point, this da’ee corresponded with [this one particular] kaafir for a time period you cannot imagine – 26 years. And he did not despair. And the result of this: this kaafir announced Islam. …

[Firstly,] everything is related to (Iqqamat-a-Deen) establishing the Religion.

The Second affair, do not be divided or separated in that establishment of the religion. From the greatest goals/objectives of this Deen is that its people who attribute themselves to it are together, have a working relationship, and be as upon the heart of one individual. If this affair is required of the Muslims everywhere, then this even a greater requirement in the land of kufaar.

It is upon us to strive, implement and manifest this principle and goal of being together, of having togetherness, and that we narrow the differences between ourselves, and shut off the path that shaytan would like to use to bring between us differences, hatred and envy.

This [part of the] talk right now is for you brothers, the one whom Allaah brought your hearts together upon Tawheed upon the Sunnah of the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) with the correct understanding of the Salaf (may Allaah have mercy on them).

Know that shaytan is extremely diligent in trying to bring about separation between people who follow the correct manhaj. And for this reason, we hear many times about the differences and the separation amongst the Salafees in the lands of the West, in the lands of the kufaar. This requires that we come together and work together to solve this problem.

And from the greatest things required from us all, so we can solve this problem, is that we get rid of something we may have in our hearts, and this is evil thoughts (suspicion), or suu-a-dhan.

We have to have good thoughts about our brothers, and not have evil suspicion. If we see something from our brother that is incorrect or could [go] either way, we should strive to get this thought out of our heads. This is the only way we can kill the fitna that shaytan will want to cause between us.

We claim that we follow the way of the Salaf. Then, let us look at the brotherhood they had [and those who followed them], and you can base your conditions upon this example.

At one point, Imam Shafi’ee (may Allaah have mercy on him) became sick, and one of his students – his most famous student al-Muzanee – made du’aa: “may Allaah make your weakness stronger.”

Imam Shafi’ee said: “If my weakness became stronger, I would die.”

The student said: Wallaahi, I didn’t intend anything except good.

{Shaikh as-Sindee commented: “And look how the Imam Ash-Shafi’ee dealt with his students”}

Imam Shafi’ee said: If you had cursed me explicitly, I (still) would have known that you really didn’t mean it. [Source later supplied by Shaikh as-Sindee: In Shaikh ul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah’s refutation upon al-Bakri, and Ibn Taymiyyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) called it “a well-known story.”]

This is Husn-u-dhan.

I would like to close by welcoming you to the city of the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihiwasallam), and I ask Allaah to welcome you, and ask Allaah to make our acts righteous, and that they be purely for His Face, and that no one has any portion of our actions (meaning that Allaah is singled out in them). And we ask Allaah to bless this gathering. Allaah knows best. And may the peace and blessings be upon our Prophet.

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Question to Shaikh as-Sindee:

Is the reward greater for being used (by Allaah) to guide an astray Muslim to The Straight Path, or a kaafir to Islam?

The Shaikh answered:

“Without a doubt, guiding a kaafir to Islam – that they leave from the fold of kufr – is a greater reward. And the greatest of the levels of this is that Allaah (subhanahu wa taa’ala) gives you the guidance to guide this one and that one, that Allaah gives you the ability to guide them both (the Muslim and the kaafir).”

Post Courtesy : Maher ibn Ahmed

Why husband have High Status that He does? – Shaykh Muhammad Amaan Jaamee

Taken from the Book: The Structure of the Muslim Family by the shaykh al’Allaamah Muhammad Amaan ibn Ali al-Jaami died: 1416H

[004:034] Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means.

This verse, as you can see, clearly gives the responsibility of leading and governing the family to the man. Additionally, the verse never failed to clarify the reason for this; rather, it explained why.

Allah said, “because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means.” [1]

[1][TN}: Al-Qurtubi said in his tafseer [5/161] :

“Some of the people of knowledge have understood from the saying of Allah, the Most High, “because they spend (to support them) from their means.” That whenever the husband is incapable of supporting his wife then he is not considered to be maintaining her. If he is not maintaining her, then she can seek that the marriage contract be annulled because one of the intents behind the legislation of marriage has been lost.”

2. That both of them performed and fulfill the rights and obligations that Allah has made compulsory upon them as it pertains to the other partner. The wife should not demand to receive exactly the same rights that belong to the husband, and the husband should not use the authority or leadership that Allah has graced him with as an opportunity to oppress her and beat her unjustly. [ page # 49-50]

3. It is essential that the woman obey her husband as much as she can when he commands her. As this is a station that Allah has granted to the men as mentioned in the two previous verses: “Man are the protectors and maintainer of women” [An-Nisaa: 34] and “But men have a degree of responsibility over them” [Al-Baqarah: 228]  [page # 5]

Shaykh Muhammad Amaan al-Jaami rahimahullaah advises in “The Structure of The Muslim Family” (translated by brother Hasan As-Somali hafithahullaah) pg 31.

“It is upon the intelligent Muslim woman to study her religion to allow her to truly grasp the position of Islam towards the woman and the dignified position Islam has given her. Additionally, she should not pay attention to every imbecile that makes unfounded claims.

At the same time, she should examine some of the foreign constitutions, like the French constitution, to truly understand the position that these constitutions have towards the women.”

Taken from the Book: The Structure of the Muslim Family by the shaykh al’Allaamah Muhammad Amaan ibn Ali al-Jaami died: 1416H.