The Punishment for One who Intentionally Breaks His Fast!

Ibn Khuzaymah (1986) and Ibn Hibbaan (7491) narrated that Aboo Umaamah al-Baahili (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:

I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say:
Whilst I was sleeping, two men came to me and took hold of my upper arm, and brought me to a rugged mountain. They said: Climb up.’ I said: I cannot do it.’ They said: We will make it easy for you.’ So I climbed up until I was at the top of the mountain. There I heard loud voices. I said: What are these voices?’ They said: This is the screaming of the people of Hell.’ Then I was taken and I saw people suspended by their ankles, with the corners of their mouths torn and pouring with blood. I said: Who are these?’ They said: These are the people who broke their fast before it was time to do so.’

[Classed as Saheeh by al-Albaanee in Saheeh Mawaarid adh-Dham-aan, 1509].

al-Albaanee (may Allaah have mercy on him) commented: I say: This is the punishment of the one who fasted then deliberately broke his fast before the time for iftaar had come. So how about one who does not fast at all? We ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound in this world and in the Hereafter.

Source: Compiled by Sister Umm Sufyan Fatima

Worship Allah upon Sound Knowledge – Abu Muhammad al-Maghribee [Audio|En]

Worship Allah upon Sound Knowledge
Abu Muhammad al-Maghribee (hafidhahullaah)
http://followthesalaf.com
[Mp3|Eng]

This talk was given on Saturday, May 26, 2012 in Masjid Eebaadur-Rahmaan in Marietta, GA.

If Allah intends good for a person, He will give him correct understanding of the religion.” Bukhaari

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Depending Upon Astronomical Calculations For The Beginning and End Of Ramadaan is an Innovation Of The Raafidah Shee`ah

بسم الله ال رحمن ال رحيم

Depending Upon Astronomical Calculations For The Beginning & End Of Ramadaan Is An Innovation Of The Raafidah Shee`ah – Contrary To The Ijmaa` Of The Salaf

AL-BUKHAAREE reports in his ‘Saheeh’ : BOOK OF FASTING : CHAPTER : THE SAYING OF THE PROPHET (Peace be upon him) : << WE DO NOT WRITE, NOR DO WE RECKON. >> :-

“Aadam narrated to us: Shu`bah narrated to us: al-Aswad ibn Qays narrated to us: Sa`eed ibn `Amr narrated to us: that he heard Ibn `Umar – radiyallaahu `anhumaa – report from the Prophet (Peace be upon him) that he said: <We are an unlettered nation, we do not write, nor do we reckon. The month is like this – and like this> – meaning once twenty-nine, and once thirty.”

al-Haafiz ibn Hajr said in “Fathul-Baaree‟ (4/137):

“…This is not rebutted by the fact that there were people amongst them who could write and count – since the ability to write was rare amongst them, and what is meant by reckoning here is reckoning the stars and their movements. They had not used to know that either, except for a tiny few of them. So the ruling for Fasting and other than it is connected to sighting the moon, to remove any difficulty from them – so they do not have to go to pains to calculate astronomical movements, and this ruling for Fasting continues even if there appears after them people who know that. Indeed what is apparent from the context indicates a denial that the ruling is to be connected to astronomical calculations at all. This is also made clear by his saying in the previous hadeeth: So if it is cloudy for you then complete thirty days> – and he did not say: Ask the people of calculations. The wisdom in this is that the number (of days) when it is cloudy will be something which the people are the same about, so disagreement and dispute will be avoided.

Some people hold that the astronomers are to be referred to in this – and they are the Raafidah. It is related from some of the fuqahaa· (jurists) that they agreed with them. al-Baajee said: “But the ijmaa` of the Salafus-Saalih (pious predecessors) is a proof against them”,

and Ibn Bazeezah said:

It is a false and futile (baatil) stance, since the Legislation has forbidden us from delving into knowledge of the stars, since it is surmise and estimations, not based upon certainty and predominant consideration – along with the fact that if the affair were connected to it, then it would cause difficulty since it is known only by a few… .”

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[Translated by Aboo Talhah Daawood ibn Ronald Burbank -rahimahullaah- ]
http://alitisaambissunnah.wordpress.com

 

Story of two women fasting during the lifetime of Allaah’s Messenger

It has been reported in the Musnad of Imaam Ahmad that this breaks the fast:

“Two women were once fasting during the lifetime of Allaah’s Messenger and they almost died of thirst. This was mentioned to the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) but he turned away from (allowing) them (to break the fast). Then they were mentioned to him again, so he called for them and ordered them to vomit, i.e. throw up, what was in their stomachs. So they both vomited and filled up a bowl with puss, blood and pieces of flesh. Then the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: ‘These two fasted by refraining from what Allaah made lawful for them. but they broke their fast by doing what Allaah made unlawful for them. One of them sat with the other and they began to eat from the flesh of people.’”

What transpired with these two women in the presence of the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) from their vomiting vile and disgusting things – this was from the miracles that Allaah allowed to occur at the hand of His Messenger so that he could show the evil effects of backbiting to the people. Allaah says: “And do not backbite one another. Would one of you love to eat the flesh of his dead brother?” [Surah Al-Hujuraat: 12]

This hadeeth shows that backbiting breaks the fast. This is in the figurative sense, meaning it nullifies the reward of fasting.

Source : The least form of fasting is leaving off food and drink
What is Prohibited and Disliked for the one Fasting – by Shaikh Saalih Al-Fawzaan [Ittihaaf Ahlil-Eemaan bi-Duroos Shahri Ramadaan ,Al-Ibaanah.com]

This narration has been declared Dha’eef by Al Imaam Al-Albaani (rahimahullaah) in Silsilah adh-Dha’eefah (Volume 2, Page 10, Hadeeth no 519) & ‘Allaamah Ahmad Shaakir (rahimahullaah) in his Checking of Muhalla of Imaam Ibn Hazm (rahimahullaah) as mentioned by ash-Shaykh Jamaal al Haarithee (hafidhahullaah).

The link to the complete article is here :: http://vb.noor-alyaqeen.com/t21268/ 

Why are Women The Majority of The Hellfire – Shaykh ‘Adil as-Sayyid [Mp3|Ar-Eng]

Why are Women The Majority of The Hellfire
Shaykh ‘Adil as-Sayyid
[Mp3|Arabic-English]

Listen / Download Mp3 Audio : [97:43 min]

Why are Women The Majority of The Hellfire by Shaykh 'Adil as-Sayyid

For Masjid ul Khaleefah Sister’s Camp 2012, “The Journey of The Muslimah: Her Life, Her Death and Hereafter,” Muwahhideen Publications has organized a LIVE telelink lecture with the noble Shaykh ‘Adil as-Sayyid (May Allaah Preserve Him), from the mashayikh of Egypt. The Shaykh is very highly recommended by Shaykh Hasan ibn Abdul-Wahhab al-Banna (May Allaah preserve him) and was referred by him as a mufassir (explainer of The Quraan using the science of tafseer).

Listen to Shaykh Hasan ibn Abdul-Wahhab al-Banna (May Allaah preserve him) on Shaykh ‘Adil as-Sayyid (May Allaah preserve him) here: http://youtu.be/5EwxTdJAQUE

The Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “I looked at paradise and found poor people forming the majority of its inhabitants; and I looked at Hell and saw that the majority of its inhabitants were women.” (Bukhari). This is further explained in another hadeeth in saheeh al-Bukhariwhere he (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.'” This hadeeth is very often misunderstood by the muslimeen with weak eeman and no firmly grounded fundamentals. Many times it is misquoted by the enemies of Islaam in their feeble attempts to attack and degrade the social and moral fiber of this beautiful, complete and perfect religion. It is also very unfortunate that even so-called muslim contemporary scholars, modernists and orientalists have wrongly interpreted and explained this narration, in such a way as to add fuel to the enemies of Islaam. Our Shaykh , the mufassir (explainer of the Quraan) will expound on this narration, bringing forth the correct explainations within the framework of theQuraan and Sunnah upon the understanding of the salaf us saalih (righteous predecessors). inshaaAllaah ta’alaa.

Organised by http://mpubs.org

Pathways to Guidance (Tareeq al Hidaaya) – Abu Muhammad al Maghribee [Mp3|Eng]

Bismillaah, wal-hamdulilaah, was-salaatu was-salaamu ‘alaa rasoolillaah,
as Salaamu ‘Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh

Pathways to Guidance (Tareeq al Hidaaya)
Abu Muhammad al Maghribee [Mp3|Eng]
http://followthesalaf.com

It is based on a beautiful talk given by Sheikh Abdur-Razzaaq ibn Abdil-Muhsin al-Abbaad al-Badr, hafidhahumullah.

Listen / Download Part 01:

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Do Not Oppress One Another – Abu Muhammad al-Maghribee [Mp3|Eng]

Bismillaah, wal-hamdulilaah, was-salaatu was-salaamu ‘alaa rasoolillaah,
as Salaamu ‘Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh

Friday Khutbah – Do Not Oppress One Another
Abu Muhammad al-Maghribee (hafidhahullaah)
http://followthesalaf.com

Listen / Download Mp3 Here (29:18 min)

Based on Sheikh Fawzaan‘s explanation of Hadith #24 in An-Nawawee’s collection of 40 Hadith;On the authority of Abu Dharr (radiAllaahu anhu) from the Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) from his Lord (‘azza wa jall) that He said:

O My servants ! I have forbidden dhulm (oppression) for Myself, and I have made it forbidden amongst you, so do not oppress one another…. (Hadeeth Qudsi)

Sheikh Fawzaan mentioned three types of dhulm (oppression);

1. Dhulm (oppression) between a servant and his Lord – Shirk
2. Dhulm (oppression) between a servant and his nafs (own self) – Base Desires and Sins
3. Dhulm (oppression) between one person and others


Some Notes

Those who believe and do not mix their faith with Dhulm, these are the ones for whom there is faith, and they are rightly guided.” [Sooratul An’aam][Here Dhulm – to associate partners with Allaah.]

Avoid oppression, because oppression will result in deep darkness on the Day of Ressurection.” [Recorded by Muslim and others]

Avoid the oppressed’s supplication (against you), even if he was a kafir, because there is no barrier in its way (to Allah).” [Recorded by Ahmed, Abu Ya’la , and others. Verified to be hasan by al-Albani as sahih no 767 and sahih ul-jami no 119]

Whoever has oppressed his brother in regard to his honor or property should beg for his forgiveness today – before it will be taken from him on a day when there will be no dinars or dirhams: If he has good deeds, some of them will be taken to the amount of his oppression; and if he has no good deeds, some of his (oppressed) companion’s sins will be taken and loaded upon him.” [Recorded by al-Bukhari and Ahmed]

Guidance For The Muslims in The West – Shaykh Ahmad as-Subay’ee [Audio|Ar-En]

Guidance For The Muslims in The West by Shaykh Ahmad as-Subay'ee
Shaykh Ahmad as-Subay’ee
(Arabic & English) – mpubs.org

An extremely beneficial lecture delivered by the noble Shaykh Ahmad as-Subay’ee (hafidhahullaah), organized by Muwahhideen Publications The Shaykh delved into some very important principles of the methodology of this blessed dawah-tus-salafiyyah.

Listen/Download mp3 Here [85:32 mins]

The Shaykh began with an exaltation towards brotherhood and giving due rights to one another, mentioning the tremendous value of those rights.

Then he mentioned that the rights of the scholars are even greater, because not only do they have the right of being muslim but also the right of having knowledge and spreading it. With regard to the rights of a scholar, the Shaykh explained that one must not deal with the mistakes of a scholar from ahl sunnah like a “scholar” from ahl bida’. As is the statement from the salaf, in reference to the knowledge of the scholars, that when the water reaches a certain amount it does not carry the impurities, so too is the high status of the scholars of ahl sunnah which must be taken into consideration. The Shaykh mentioned some fundamentals concerning the difference between dealing with the general population of the muslims and the scholar known to be upon the sunnah versus the people of innovation, namely the impermissibility of reversing these rights. He mentions that there is a devious practice done today which is the intentional disregard of properly administering these rights in order to cause confusion and discord amongst the masses of the muslimeen. At one point, the Shaykh interrupted the translator and highlighted a principle that, when mentioning the name AbdurRahmaan AbdulKhaaliq it is necessary to mention the group that he belongs to, for maximum clarification. He exposed the falsity of those who try to defend the likes of known deviants and innovators like Sayid Qutb and AbdurRahmaan AbdulKhaliq by comparing them to the two great scholars from the salaf, Imaam an-Nawawi and al-Hafidh Ibn Hajr al-Asqalaani, claiming that these two from the modern day callers are similar to these two great scholars from the salaf who had some mistakes. This absurd comparison is extremely misappropriated. The Shaykh elaborates on the reasons why and much much more.

This lecture is a must listen for the people of the sunnah in the west!

[Tele-link conducted with Shaykh Ahmad as-Subay’ee (hafidhahullaah) with the brothers at Mpubs, Trinidad & Tobago and Salafy Ink Publications on June 29th ]

http://mpubs.org

Actions should be ascribed to Allah, not His attributes – Shaykh al-Fawzan

Question: What is the ruling on saying “Fate wanted”? It is for example said “I wanted to visit him but fate wanted something else”.

Shaykh al-Fawzân: It is not allowed that actions are ascribed to the Attributes so that one says: “Fate wanted”, “The will of Allâh wanted” or the like. One should however say: “Allâh wanted” and “Allâh (subhânahu wa ta’âlâ) decided”.  Actions should be ascribed to Allâh, not His attributes.

Source: Sharh Lum´at-il-I´tiqâd, p. 298

Ref: Darulhadith.com
aFatwa.com (site is down)

Good Manners in Dealing with the Creation – Abu Muhammad al Maghribee [Audio|En]

 Book Study – Upright Moral Character by Ibn Uthaymeen – Part 04
Abu Muhammad al-Maghribee (hafidhahullaah)
http://followthesalaf.com
(mp3/english)

This lecture was given on Monday May 21, 2012.  This is part 4 in our lecture mini-series covering the book مكارم الأخلاق (Upright Moral Character) by our noble Sheikh Ibn Uthaymeen.

Yesterday we discussed the first kind of good manners, good manners with Allah, the Creator.

Today we will read about the second kind of good manners, good manners in dealing with the creation (the people). Our noble Sheikh Ibn Uthaymeen describes good manners with the people as including three things. 

Listen to find out what they are, in shaa Allah.

Listen / Download mp3: (Duration 01:16:19)

Must Read – Good Manners when Dealing with the Creation – Shaikh Muhammad bin Saalih Al-’Uthaimeen ( Chapter from the Book – Upright Moral Character)

Having Good Manners with the Creator – Abu Muhammad al Maghribee [Audio|En]

 Book Study – Upright Moral Character by Ibn Uthaymeen – Part 03
Abu Muhammad al-Maghribee (hafidhahullaah)
http://followthesalaf.com
(mp3/english)

This lecture was given on Sunday May 20, 2012.  This is part 3 in our lecture mini-series covering the book مكارم الأخلاق (Upright Moral Character) by our noble Sheikh Ibn Uthaymeen.

Many people believe that good manners are just in dealing with other people – being nice to others.  This is a deficient understanding.  Rather a person must have good manners with his Creator first!

So know that good character has two forms; Good manners with one’s Creator and good manners with the creation. 

The focus of today will be on having good manners with the Creator. 

So what 3 things are from good manners with our Creator?

Listen and find out…

Listen / Download mp3: (Duration 01:15:10)

Which is better, good character which is inborn or the good character which is sought after and attained? – Abu Muhammad al Maghribee (mp3/english)

 Book Study – Upright Moral Character by Ibn Uthaymeen – Part 02
Abu Muhammad al-Maghribee (hafidhahullaah)
http://followthesalaf.com
(mp3/english)

This lecture was given on Saturday May 19, 2012.  This is part 2 in our lecture mini-series covering the book مكارم الأخلاق (Upright Moral Character) by our noble Sheikh Ibn Uthaymeen.

Today we begin with the point by the Sheikh regarding the question:

Which is better, good character which is inborn and natural or the good character which is sought after and attained by effort on the part of the person?

And what are the categories of people regarding good manners?

Listen to find out…

Listen / Download mp3: (Duration 61:11:00)

 

Upright Moral Character (Makarim al-Akhlaq) – Shaykkh Ibn Uthaymeen – Abu Muhammad al Maghribee [Audio|En]

Upright Moral Character Book Study – Upright Moral Character by Ibn Uthaymeen
Abu Muhammad al-Maghribee (hafidhahullaah)

This lecture was given on Friday May 18, 2012 at Masjid at-Tawheed in Stone Mountain, GA.

Today we begin studying from the book مكارم الأخلاق Makarim al-Akhlaq (Upright Moral Character) by our noble Sheikh Muhammad bin Saaleh al-Uthaymeen, rahimahullah. This was originally a talk that the Sheikh gave to the youth in a summer camp regarding good manners.

You may find the original arabic text of the book on the Sheikh’s website at:
http://www.ibnothaimeen.com/all/index/makaremalakhlaq.pdf

This is a topic of great importance, so please take the time to listen and benefit, in shaa Allah.

Part 01: We begin with a few stories from the life of our Sheikh, rahimahullah, and then with the introduction and the text of the book.

Listen / Download mp3: (Time 01:11:48)

Part 02 : Listen / Download Mp3 Here (Time 01:01:11)

Part 03 : Listen / Download Mp3 Here (Time 01:15:10)

Part 04 : Listen / Download Mp3 Here (Time 01:16:19)

Part 05 : Listen / Download Mp3 Here (Time 01:11:11)

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If Allah made it Haraam it is for your own Benefit – Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool [Audio|Ar-En]

Bismillaah, wal-hamdulilaah, was-salaatu was-salaamu ‘alaa rasoolillaah,
as Salaamu ‘Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh

If Allah made it Haraam it is for your own Benefit
Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Listen / Download mp3 (Duration: 03:58 ):

We thank Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) for allowing us to sit with and take benefit from our Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool (حفظه الله تعالى) and we thank our Shaykh immensely for taking the time to benefit all those present in this gathering.

Post and Audio Courtesy : Brother Aboo Bilal Nahim @ KSA_dawah

The above audio clip is taken from the below excellent lecture:

Beneficial Advice to the Youth Who Came to Perform Umrah – Shaykh Ahmad Bazmool /Abu Ishaaq Nadeem (arabic/english)

Are Adultery and Fornication the Only Types of Zinaa ? – Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool [Audio|Ar-En]

Bismillaah, wal-hamdulilaah, was-salaatu was-salaamu ‘alaa rasoolillaah,
as Salaamu ‘Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh

Are Adultery and Fornication the Only Types of Zinaa ?
Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Listen / Download mp3 (Duration: 03:27 ):

We thank Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) for allowing us to sit with and take benefit from our Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool (حفظه الله تعالى) and we thank our Shaykh immensely for taking the time to benefit all those present in this gathering.

Post and Audio Courtesy : Brother Aboo Bilal Nahim @ KSA_Dawah

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has decreed for every son of Adam his share of zina, which he will inevitably commit. The zina of the eyes is looking, the zina of the tongue is speaking, one may wish and desire, and the private parts confirm that or deny it.” [al-Bukhaari, 5889; Muslim, 2657]

“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin, and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)” [al-Isra’ 17:32]

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allaah is All‑Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts)” [al-Noor 24:30-31]

“Allaah knows the fraud of the eyes, and all that the breasts conceal” [Ghaafir 40:19]

The above audio clip is taken from the below excellent lecture:

Beneficial Advice to the Youth Who Came to Perform Umrah – Shaykh Ahmad Bazmool /Abu Ishaaq Nadeem (arabic/english)

If you Fall in to Sin, Hasten to do Good Deeds – Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool [Audio|Ar-En]

Bismillaah, wal-hamdulilaah, was-salaatu was-salaamu ‘alaa rasoolillaah,
as Salaamu ‘Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh

If you Fall in to Sin, Hasten to do Good Deeds
Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Listen / Download mp3 (Duration: 05:54 ):

We thank Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) for allowing us to sit with and take benefit from our Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool (حفظه الله تعالى) and we thank our Shaykh immensely for taking the time to benefit all those present in this gathering.

Post and Audio Courtesy : Brother Aboo Bilal Nahim

The above audio clip is taken from the below excellent lecture:

Beneficial Advice to the Youth Who Came to Perform Umrah – Shaykh Ahmad Bazmool /Abu Ishaaq Nadeem (arabic/english)

Is Islam Suitable in these Times – Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool [Audio|Ar-En]

Bismillaah, wal-hamdulilaah, was-salaatu was-salaamu ‘alaa rasoolillaah,
as Salaamu ‘Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh

Is Islam Suitable in these Times
Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Listen / Download mp3 (Duration: 04:36 )

We thank Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) for allowing us to sit with and take benefit from our Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool (حفظه الله تعالى) and we thank our Shaykh immensely for taking the time to benefit all those present in this gathering.

Post and Audio Courtesy : Brother Aboo Bilal Nahim @ KSA_Dawah

The above audio clip is taken from the below excellent lecture:

Beneficial Advice to the Youth Who Came to Perform Umrah – Shaykh Ahmad Bazmool /Abu Ishaaq Nadeem (arabic/english)

Removing Doubts about the Status of Women in Islam – Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool [Audio|Ar-En]

Bismillaah, wal-hamdulilaah, was-salaatu was-salaamu ‘alaa rasoolillaah,
as Salaamu ‘Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh

Removing Doubts about the Status of Women in Islam
Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Listen / Download mp3 (Duration: 9 mins):

We thank Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) for allowing us to sit with and take benefit from our Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool (حفظه الله تعالى) and we thank our Shaykh immensely for taking the time to benefit all those present in this gathering.

Post and Audio Courtesy : Brother Aboo Bilal Nahim @ KSA_Dawah

The above audio clip is taken from the below excellent lecture:

Beneficial Advice to the Youth Who Came to Perform Umrah – Shaykh Ahmad Bazmool /Abu Ishaaq Nadeem (arabic/english)

Shaytaan Promised to take as many of us Astray as he could – Shaykh Ahmad Umar Bazmool [Audio|Ar-En]

Shaytaan Promised to take as many of us Astray as he could
Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Listen / Download mp3 (Duration:10 mins):

We thank Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) for allowing us to sit with and take benefit from our Shaykh Ahmad ‘Umar Bazmool (حفظه الله تعالى) and we thank our Shaykh immensely for taking the time to benefit all those present in this gathering.

Post and Audio Courtesy : Brother Aboo Bilal Nahim @ KSA_Dawah

The above audio clip is taken from the below excellent lecture:

Beneficial Advice to the Youth Who Came to Perform Umrah – Shaykh Ahmad Bazmool /Abu Ishaaq Nadeem (arabic/english)

Good Manners when Dealing with the Creation – Shaikh Muhammad bin Saalih Al-‘Uthaimeen

Bismillaah, wal-hamdulilaah, was-salaatu was-salaamu ‘alaa rasoolillaah,
as Salaamu ‘Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh

Good Manners when Dealing with the Creation
by  Shaikh Muhammad bin Saalih Al-‘Uthaimeen
Makaarim-ul- Akhlaaq (pg. 23-31) – Al-Ibaanah.com

As for having good manners with the creation, then some of them have defined it as withholding abuse, extending kindness and having a cheerful countenance. This has been mentioned as a saying of Al-Hasan Al-Basree, may Allaah have mercy on him. [1]

First: The Meaning of Withholding Abuse:

What is meant by withholding abuse is that a person refrains from harming others whether financially, spiritually or socially (i.e. by harming his reputation). So whoever does not withhold from harming the creation, he does not possess good manners. On the contrary, he is ill-mannered.

The Messenger proclaimed the prohibition of harming a Muslim through any means of abuse. He did this during the greatest of gatherings in which he congregated with his ummah, saying: Indeed, your blood (i.e. lives), your wealth and your honor are sacred for you just like the sanctity of this day of yours in this month of yours in this land of yours. [2]

If a man transgresses against people by taking their wealth or by committing fraud or by deceiving them or by hitting them and committing a crime against them or by reviling, backbiting or slandering them, such a person is not good-mannered towards people. This is since he has not refrained from harming others.

And the sin of this becomes even greater every time his bad manners are directed towards someone who has a bigger right over you. So maltreatment of your parents, for example, is worse than you treating anyone else bad. Maltreatment of your relatives is worse than you treating strangers bad. And maltreatment of your neighbors is worse than treating those who are not your neighbors bad. This is why the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “By Allaah, he does not believe! By Allaah, he does not believe! By Allaah, he does not believe!” They (i.e. the Companions) said: Who O Messenger of Allaah?” He said: “He whose neighbor is not safe from his calamities.” [3]

Second: The Meaning of Extending Kindness:

The word nadaa (kindness) means generosity and courtesy, i.e. to extend one’s generosity and courtesy to others. Generosity does not mean what some people think it to be, which is giving money only. Rather, generosity can also be by way of giving one’s self, offering one’s status (to assist), donating one’s wealth and spreading one’s knowledge.

If we see an individual taking care of the people’s needs by helping them, directing their affairs to those who are not able to reach them, spreading his knowledge amongst the people and donating his wealth to them, can we describe this man as having good manners? Yes, we can say he has good manners because he has extended kindness and generosity. This is why the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: Fear Allaah wherever you may be, and follow up an evil deed with a good deed, (for) it will wipe it out. And treat the people with good manners.” [4]

What falls under treating the people with good manners is: If you are oppressed and maltreated by someone, you should pardon and forgive that person. Allaah has praised those who pardon others, as He says about the inhabitants of Paradise: Those who spend (in Allaah’s Cause) during times of prosperity and adversity, who repress anger and who pardon people. Verily, Allaah loves the good-doers.” [Surah Aali ‘Imraan: 134]

And Allaah says: And to forego is closer to piety (Taqwaa).” [Surah Al-Baqarah: 237]

And He says: And let them pardon and forgive.” [Surah An-Noor: 22]

And He says: So whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is with Allaah.” [Surah Ash-Shooraa: 40]

A person is in constant contact with people, so he will most definitely encounter some bad treatment from people. But his stance with regard to this bad treatment should be that of pardoning and overlooking. And he should know for certain that by pardoning, overlooking, and responding with good, the animosity that exists between him and his brother will transform to amicability, love and friendship. Allaah says: The good deed and the evil deed are not equal. Repel (the evil) with that which is better, then behold, the one between whom he and you there was enmity (will become) as though he were a close friend.” [Surah Fussilat: 34]

Those of you who have knowledge of the Arabic language should reflect on how the end-result is derived here via the abrupt mention of “idhaa” (which means “then behold” here). The abrupt mention of this word indicates that the result (at the end of the ayah) will come to pass immediately, and that is: “then behold, the one between whom he and you there was enmity (will become) as though he were a close friend.”

However, not everyone is granted this same result. This is why Allaah says: But none are granted it except those who are patient. And none are granted it except those who possess a great portion (of moral character).” [Surah Fussilat: 35]

Do we understand from this that pardoning a criminal is praiseworthy in the absolute sense and that it is something that we were ordered to do? Some people have come up with this understanding based on this verse. However, it should be known that pardoning should only be commended if forgiving is the best and most advisable option. However, if retribution is the best option then doing that is better. This is why Allaah says: The recompense for an evil is an evil the like thereof. But whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is with Allaah. Verily, He likes not the wrongdoers.” [Surah Ash-Shooraa: 40] So here Allaah has linked forgiveness with reconciliation.

So it is possible that forgiveness may not necessarily mean reconciliation. For example, it could be that this individual who committed a crime against you and was insolent towards you is an evil man who is known for being evil and corrupt, and so if you were to forgive him, he would persist in his evil and mischief. In this situation, it is better that this man is punished for his crime since there is reconciliation in this.Shaikh-ul-Islaam Ibn Taimiyyah said: “Reconciliation is obligatory whereas forgiveness is optional. So in the event that forgiveness will cause reconciliation to be bypassed, this means that we have given precedence to something optional over something obligatory. And the religious legislation did not come to institute this.” And he has spoken truthfully, may Allaah have mercy on him.

An Important Note:

I would like to take this opportunity to point out something that many people do today with the intention of being good and sympathetic. And it is that when a person gets into an accident and as a result another person dies, the guardians of the deceased come and revoke the blood-money that is owed by this offender that committed the accident. So is their canceling of the blood-money praiseworthy and considered as being from good manners or does this issue have more detail to it?

There is more detail required on this issue. We must reflect and ponder on the condition of this offender who has caused this accident. Is he from among those people who are known to be careless and inconsiderate? Does he fall into the type of people that say: “I don’t care if I run over somebody on the road because I already have his blood-money prepared inside my desk” and we seek refuge in Allaah!

Or is he someone who has fallen into an accident even though he employed complete discretion and complete poise and balance, but in spite of this Allaah had already decreed all things to come to pass?

If he falls under the second category of people, then forgiving him is better. However, even if he does fall under this second category of prudent and well-poised people, before we forgive him, we must look to see if the victim has any debt he owes.

If the victim owes a debt, we cannot forgive the offender. And had we already pardoned the offender, the pardon would be dismissed. This is an issue that perhaps many people are unaware of. We say this because the heirs will assume entitlement of this blood-money from the victim that was killed in an accident, and their entitlement will not be satisfied until they pay back the deceased’s debt if he owed someone money.

This is why when Allaah mentions inheritance, He says: (The distribution in all cases is) after the payment of legacies he may have bequeathed or a debt (he owes). [Surah An-Nisaa: 11]

The point is that forgiving people is part of good manners and it falls under the realm of extending kindness to others. This is since extending kindness can either be in the form of giving something or in the form of revoking something, and pardoning falls under revoking something.

Third: A Cheerful Countenance:

Having a cheerful countenance means that your face is radiant and illuminated when you come in contact with other human beings. The opposite of this is to appear with a gloomy face. This is why the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: Do not think little of any good deed, even if it is encountering your brother with a cheerful face.” [5]

A poet put this understanding into a verse, saying:

“My son, indeed piety can be something so trivial,
as a cheerful face and a soft-spoken tongue.”

So a cheerful face allows happiness to enter into people; it brings out love and amiability; and it causes the heart to expand – both yours and those you encounter.

On the other hand, if you always appear upset, people will run away from you. They will not be happy sitting with you or talking to you. Perhaps you may even be afflicted with psychological problems. You may be suffering from a dangerous disease known as stress. If so, then being happy and having a cheerful face is from the most effective treatments one can use to combat this disease. This is why doctors advise those who are afflicted with this illness to keep away from those things that cause them to be instigated and angered since that will only cause their sickness to grow.

So being happy and having a cheerful face causes this disease to be exterminated. And as a result of these two characteristics, a person will become loved by the people and dear to them.

These are the three foundations that good manners when dealing with the creation revolve around.

Also from the signs of good manners towards creation is:

That a person observes good relations with those friends and relatives that he is contact with. He should not be bothered by them nor should he inconvenience them. On the contrary, he should cause happiness to go into their hearts according to the extent that he is able to, within the confines of Allaah’s Legislation. This restriction is absolutely necessary since there are some people who cannot be made happy except with things that are disobedience to Allaah, and we seek refuge in Allaah! So we should not consent with him in this. However, causing happiness and joy to enter into those you keep ties with whether they are your family members, friends or relatives according to the limits of the Religion is part of having good manners. This is why the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: The best of you are those who are the best towards their family. And I am the best of you towards my family. [6]

Many people, unfortunately, display good manners in front of people yet they do not behave in the same manner towards their family. This is extremely wrong and the opposite of how things should be. How can you have good manners in front of strangers yet bad manners in front of your own family?

Someone may say: Because I take care of them and support them! We respond by saying: This is not something that should cause you to display bad manners towards them. Your family members and relatives have the most right out of all people that you should be good-mannered towards them when accompanying and spending time with them. This is why when a man once asked the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam): “O Messenger of Allaah, who has the most right amongst people of my good companionship” , he (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) replied: “Your mother.” The man said: “Then who?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man said: “Then who?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man said: “Then who?” He replied: “Your father.” [7]

In spite of this, some people behave contrary to this. So you will find him having a bad relationship with his mother while having a good relationship with his wife. So he gives having good ties with his wife precedence (over having good ties with his mother) whereas the status of his wife before him is like that of a captive. The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: Take care of the women for indeed they are like captives before you.” [8]

In summary: Keeping good relations with family, friends and relatives is all part of having good manners.

Footnotes:

[1] See al-Adaab-ush- Shar’eeyah (2/216); There are also other definitions for good manners such as the definition of Al-Waasitee, where he said: “It is when one does not argue due to his complete awareness of Allaah. It is also said it means the relinquishment of immoral characteristics and the adornment of virtuous characteristics. It is also said that it means offering the good while withholding the vile. Sahl was once asked about it so he replied: ‘The lowest form of it is showing, tolerance, lack of retribution and mercy towards the wrongdoer, while asking Allaah to forgive him and showing sympathy towards him.'” [Refer to Madaarij-us- Saalikeen of Ibn Al-Qayyim (2/294), Ihyaa ‘Uloom-id-Deen of Abu Haamid Al-Ghazaalee (3/53) and al-Adaab-ush- Shar’eeyah (2/216)]

[2] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree (no. 67, 1741 & 4406) and Muslim (no. 29 & 30)

[3] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree (no. 6016) and by Muslim (no. 73) with the wording: “He whose neighbor is not safe from his calamities will not enter Paradise.”

[4] Reported by At-Tirmidhee (no. 1987) who said it was “hasan saheeh” and Ahmad in al-Musnad (4/153, 158 & 236) from Abu Dharr and Mu’aadh bin Jabal, may Allaah be pleased with them. It is also found in Saheeh al-Jaami’-us- Sagheer (no. 97)

[5] Reported by Muslim (no. 144) and in extended form by At-Tirmidhee (no. 1833)

[6] Reported by At-Tirmidhee (no. 3895) and Ibn Hibbaan in his Saheeh (no. 1312 of al-Mawaarid) from the narration of ‘Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her; It is found in Saheeh al-Jaami’-us- Sagheer (no. 3314); It was also reported by Ibn Maajah (no. 1977) from the narration of Ibn ‘Abbaas (radyAllaahu ‘anhu).

[7] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree (no. 5971), Muslim (no. 201) and Ibn Maajah (no. 2706)

[8] Reported by At-Tirmidhee (no. 3087) who said it was “hasan saheeh”

Published on: May 20, 2007