Rulings Related To Hadaanah – Child Care and Custody – Dr Saleh-As-Saleh [Audio|En]

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Prophet Saaleh (alayhis salaam) – Dr.Saleh as-Saleh [Book and Audio]

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Prophet Huud (alayhis salaam) – Dr. Saleh as-Saleh [Book and Audio]

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Tawheed for Children – Dr. Saleh As-Saleh

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Al-Aqeeqah : Sacrifice Offered at the Time of the Birth of a Child – Dr Saleh as Saleh [Audio|En]

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Birth Control & Family Limitation (of offspring) – Shaykh al-Albaani

[48] Question: What is the ruling concerning putting limitations to the amount of offspring one has?

Answer: The person that limits his offspring without having a legitimate reason for doing so, I hold him to be foolish if not a disbeliever in the Qadaa and the Qadar (Divine Execution and Preordainment) of Allaah. This is since the individual that limits his progeny to only three children, for example, and he has reached the age of fifty (!), the thought of death does not even cross his mind, or that some violent storm should come and take the lives of his three children, thus leaving him till the end of his life as if he were barren and without offspring. Therefore, those that put limits to the amount of children they have, they do not reflect upon the things that every Muslim reflects on. And it is Al-Qadar (Preordainment), which befalls the people in the way that He wants, not in the way that they want. So this practice that is done in current times, is a severe negligence and a clear deprivation.

[Al-Asaalah, Issue #2]

[49] Question: Does the ruling on birth control differ from that of family limitation (of offspring)?

Answer: Birth control has some detail to it. Therefore, I say that this thing, which has come to be known as “birth control” is from that which the Muslims of today are being tested by in the lands of Islaam. However, there are cases from it, which must be referred back to the motive behind it. An example of this is when the motive for this birth control is based on a prescription from Muslim doctors who are advising the couple towards this so-called “birth control” to safeguard the health of the woman who has departed from her natural state due to her having delivered many children! So if a skilled Muslim doctor issues these instructions as a form of advice, then that becomes a legitimate excuse for (the allowance of) this birth control.

This is an example in which birth control is permissible. As for an example that is contrary to this one, then it is such as when the motive behind it is due to poverty (!) or because of bills, which is always on the minds of the disbelievers!! So you can see one of them say: “My wife and I are two. And I have two children!! And the fifth member of them is their dog!! So this monthly pay that we receive is just enough for us (to pay our bills), and that’s all [five]!” This is not permissible in Islaam because this motive emanates from the logic of the Days of Ignorance, which we were warned to avoid and stay away from. Such is found in Allaah’s saying: “And do not kill your children for fear of poverty. We will provide you with sustenance as well as them.” [Surah Al-Ana’aam: 151]

This is especially the case since the Muslims believe that the child comes with his sustenance (already) with him. This is because, before it comes out into this world, its sustenance is ordained for it while it is in the womb of its mother, as has been clarified to us in the Noble Sunnah. So this example of birth control, with this motive, is not permissible at all. As for the baseless and false reasons that some people have used to justify and allow it, then they have no place in the Religion.

[Al-Asaalah, Issue #2]

Fataawaa of Shaikh Al-Albaanee (rahimahullaah)
From Al-Asaalah Magazine Issues 1-21, Translated and Arranged by: Isma’eel Alarcon

Holding birthday parties for children – Permanent Committee

Q: Some of our Muslim brethren hold birthday parties for themselves and their children, what is the ruling on such festivals? 

A: The basic principle regarding acts of Ibadah (worship) is that they are Tawqifiy (bound by a religious text and not amenable to personal opinion), and as such, no one is allowed to worship Allah in a way other than which He ordained, because the Prophet (peace be upon him) said in the Sahih (authentic) Hadith:

Anyone who introduces anything into this matter of ours (Islam) that is not part of it will have it rejected. [1]

He (peace be upon him) also said:

Anyone who does an action which is not in accordance with this matter of ours (Islam) will have it rejected. [2]

Birthday parties are an act of Bid’ah (innovation in religion) that should not be done for any person, regardless of their rank or role in life.

The most honorable of all creation and the best of all Messengers (peace be upon them), i.e. Muhammad ibn ‘Abdullah (peace be upon him) was never reported to have held a festival for the day he was born, or even instructed his Ummah (nation based on one creed) to celebrate it.

Similarly, the best of this Ummah after its Prophet (peace be upon him) are the Rightly-Guided Caliphs and the Sahabah (Companions of the Prophet), but none of them is reported to have made a festival for the Prophet’s birthday, or for any of them (may Allah be pleased with them), and all goodness is to be found in following their pathand patterning oneself after the teachings of the Prophet (peace be upon him).

Moreover, such Bid`ah pave the way to imitate the Jews, Christians and other Kafirs (non-Muslims) in terms of their newly invented festivals. Allah is the One sought for help!

May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions!

[1] Al-Bukhari, Sahih, Book on reconciliation, no. 2697; Muslim, Sahih, Book on judicial decisions, no. 1718; Abu Dawud, Sunan, Book on Al-Sunnah, no. 4606; Ibn Majah, Sunan, Introduction, no. 14; and Ahmad, Musnad, vol. 6, p. 240.

[2] Muslim, Sahih, Book on judicial decisions, no. 1718; and Ahmad Ibn Hanbal, Musnad, vol. 6, p. 180

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The Necessity of Teaching Our Children to Despise Terrorism and the Terrorists – Shaykh Abu Umar al-Utaybi

The Necessity of Teaching Our Children to Despise Terrorism & the Terrorists
وجوب تعليم أبنائنا بغض اإلرهاب واإلرهابيني :Original Title
Author: Abū ‘Umar al-‘Utaybī
Translated by: Abu az-Zubayr Harrison – authentic-translations.com

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Cesarean births should be avoided if possible – Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen

Cesarean births should be avoided if possible:
Advice from Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen رحمه الله
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A mature child sleeping on the same bed with his mother and sister – Permanent Committee

Q: Is it permissible for a boy to sleep with his mother and his sister if he has reached the age of puberty?

A: It is not permissible for boys who have reached the age of puberty or ten years of age to sleep with their mothers or their sisters in the same bed, out of protection of honors, to keep away from Fitnah (temptation) and block the means leading to sin. The Prophet (peace be upon him) asked us to separate the beds of boys and girls when they reach the age of ten in his saying:

Command your children to offer Salah (Prayer) when they become seven years old; beat them for (neglecting) it when they become ten years old; and arrange their beds (to sleep) separately.

[1] Abu Dawud, Sunan, Book on Salah, no. 495; and Ahmad, Musnad, vol. 2, p. 187.

As for those who have not reached the age of puberty yet, they are asked to take permission when entering the rooms three times when people put on light clothes and `Awrah (parts of the body that must be covered in public) most probably could be revealed.

Allah (Exalted be He) says:

O you who believe! Let your slaves and slave-girls, and those among you who have not come to the age of puberty ask your permission (before they come to your presence) on three occasions: before Fajr (morning) Salât (prayer), and while you put off your clothes for the noonday (rest), and after the ‘Ishâ’ (late-night) Salât (prayer). (These) three times are of privacy for you; other than these times there is no sin on you or on them to move about, attending to each other. Thus Allâh makes clear the Ayât (the Verses of this Qur’ân, showing proofs for the legal aspects of permission for visits) to you. And Allâh is All-Knowing, All-Wise.  [Surah Al-Nur, 24: 58]

Those who have reached the age of puberty are required to take permission at all times.

Allah (Exalted be He) says:

And when the children among you come to puberty, then let them (also) ask for permission, as those senior to them (in age). Thus Allâh makes clear His Ayât (Commandments and legal obligations) for you. And Allâh is All-Knowing, All-Wise. [Surah Al-Nur, 24: 59]

All this is for the purpose of keeping away Fitnah, protecting honors and eliminating the means leading to evil.

As for boys who are less than ten years old, it is permissible for them to sleep with their mothers and sisters in their beds, as they need care and to remove hardship. However, if there is no fear of Fitnah, it is permissible for them to sleep in the same room, even if they are adults, but each one on a separate bed.
May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.

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Q 12: A man has many children and lives with his family in a small room that hardly accommodates them. What should he do in order not to contradict the order of the Messenger of Allah that children should be separated in beds at certain age?

A: Having separate beds for children is Wajib (obligatory) according to one’s ability. The Muslim should strive hard to fulfill that. Allah (Exalted be He) said, So keep your duty to Allâh and fear Him as much as you can The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, When I command you to do anything, do of it as much as you possibly can.

May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.
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Seeking Refuge from the Evil Eye for Children

Compiled & Translated  by Abbas Abu Yahya

From Ibn Abbas who said the Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam used to seek refuge for al-Hassan and al-Hussein, he would say:

‫أعوذ بكلمات الله التامة من كل شيطان وهامة ، ومن كل عين لامة

‘I seek refuge for you two with Allaah’s perfect words from every Shaytaan (devil) and poisonous creature and every evil eye.’

He sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam said that this is how Ibrahim used to seek refuge for Ishaaq and Ismaeel.’

[Collected by Bukhari & Tirmidhi with the extra wording, authenticated by Albaani]

An Explanation:

Abul Ulaa AbdurRahmaan al-Mubarakfooree -Rahimullaah- said:

‘Allaah’s words’:     ‘It has been said that they are the Qur’aan and it has also been said they are Allaah’s names.’

‘Perfect’:               ‘Al-Jazari said: ‘Indeed Allaah’s speech has been described as being Perfect, because it is not permissible for any of His speech to have deficiency or fault like there is in the speech of people.’

‘It has been said that the meaning of ‘Perfect’ here is that it benefits the one seeking refuge with these ‘Perfect words’, and protect him from illnesses and this would be sufficient for him.’

‘Poisonous creature’:        ‘Every type of creature that kills with poison. And it is possible that it could mean any crawling animal even if it does not kill, like insects.’

‘Evil eye’:              ‘From every evil type of affliction from the eye.’

[Taken from: ‘Tuhfahtul Ahawadhi’ an explanation of Sunan at-Tirmidhi]

How to Seek Refuge from the Evil Eye for Children

By the Muhaddith, Shaykh, Allamaa’  Muhammad Nasir uddeen al-Albaani -Rahimullaah-

Shaykh al-Albaani was asked over the phone:

Phone rings.

Shaykh:       yes!

Caller:                  Aslaamu alaykum.

Shaykh:       Wa alaykum as-Salaam.

Caller:         O Shaykh regarding ‘I seek refuge for you two with Allaah’s perfect words from every Shaytaan (devil) and poisonous creature and every evil eye.’ Is this said three consecutive times or just once?

Shaykh:       No, it is mentioned once, however if it appears to the one saying this Dua’that he needs to repeat it without specifying three times, then there is no problem with that.

Caller:         and should he place his hand on the head of the one sought refuge for?

Shaykh:       Yes, yes!

Caller:         Even in congregation, if it is a group of children together, how can he place his hand upon all of them?

Shaykh:       He should place his two hands on two of the children, then repeat this on the rest of the children.

Caller:         Right hand and left hand, with both hands?

Shaykh:       Yes, yes.

Caller:                  Regarding the hadeeth that the Messenger sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam

would not sleep until he recited Soorah Mulk, al – Isra, Zumar, and Sajdah, is this when he lies down on his bed at night, or before he lies down?

Shaykh:       What is important is that he recites before he falls asleep, whether it is whilst he is sitting or lying then it is up to him’

[Taken from: ‘Silsilah Huda wa Noor’ tape No. 323 at 3:42mins]

The Messenger’s -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- Supplication For Anas -Radi Allaahu anhu – Shaykh al Albaani

The Messenger’s -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- Supplication For Anas Radi Allaahu anhu
Taken from ‘Silsilah Ahadeeth As-Saheehah’

By the Muhaddith, Shaykh, Allamaa’  Muhammad Nasir uddeen al-Albaani
Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya 

140 – From Qatada who said: I heard Anas saying: I heard Umm Sulaym who said:

‘O Messenger of Allaah! Make Dua’ to Allaah for Anas’

The Messenger -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: ‘O Allaah increase his wealth and offspring and bless him in what you have provided for him.’

Collected by Bukhari and Tirmidhi

141-  From Thaabit, from Anas bin Malik that the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- came to Umm Haraam and she brought him some dates and margarine but the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:

‘Return this to its container and the other to its jug, since I am fasting.’

Then he stood and led us in a two Rakah optional prayer and Umm Haraam and Umm Sulaym stood behind us.  He made me stand on his right hand side – and according to Thaabit – Anas continued: He led us in an optional prayer on a mat. When he finished his prayer, Umm Sulaym said: I have a specific request, make Dua’ to Allaah for your young servant Anas.

The Messenger -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- never left anything of good from theDuniya and the Hereafter except that he supplicated it for me, then he -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:

O Allaah increase his wealth and offspring and bless it for him.’

Anas said:

‘My daughter informed me that I had been provided with some ninety odd offspring from my loins. There was not a man from amongst the Ansaar who had more wealth than me, then Anas said: ‘O Thaabit, I do not own any gold or silver except for my ring.’

Collected by Abu Dawood, I say that this Isnaad is Saheeh upon the conditions of Muslim. It is also collected by Ahmad & Muslim.

In the narration of Ahmad:

‘Then the Messenger sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam supplicated for Umm Sulaym and her family.’

And the narrator mentions:

‘Anas mentioned that his eldest daughter Ameenah informed him that there were more than one hundred and twenty from his offspring buried when Hajjaj appeared.’

Albaani said: that this Isnad of three narrators is authentic upon the conditions of Bukhari & Muslim.’

Al-Albaani Commented:

‘From the benefits of the hadeeth and its Fiqh:

There are many benefits in this hadeeth, I will mention some of them briefly, except where detail is necessary:

1- That supplicating for increase in wealth and offspring is something which is legislated.

Bukhari has a chapter heading for this hadeeth: ‘Chapter: Supplicating for blessings in having lots of wealth and offspring.’

2- And that wealth and offspring are a blessing and goodness if Allaah -Tabaraka wa Ta’ala is obeyed in respect to them. How misguided is the one who tries to limit how many children they have, using so many different means, like birth control or regulating it, let alone aborting the foetus and for the most insignificant reasons, and obtaining Fatawa to make their actions permissible! !

3- Allaah answered the Dua’ of His Prophet sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam for Anas, and it became reality, until he became the one with the most wealth and offspring from amongst the Ansar.

4- That it is allowed for the one fasting an optional fast, when he visits a person and food is presented to him that he does not have to break his fast, but he supplicates for the host with goodness. And from the chapters of Bukhari: ‘Chapter whoever visits a people and does not break his fast with them.’

5- That if a man is led in prayer by another man, he should stand on the right of the one leading the prayer.  What is evident is that he stands right next to him, not forward nor just behind him, because if anything like this ever occurred then the narrator would have narrated it, especially since the Messenger sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam repeatedly led individual companions in prayer.

There is a hadeeth of Ibn Abbas regarding this in Saheeh Bukhari and Muslim, and Bukhari brought a chapter heading for the hadeeth of Ibn Abbas, and Muslim brought it from Jabir. The chapter which Bukhari mentions is: ‘Chapter: if there are two people praying then one stands equal next to the one leading the prayer.’

Al-Hafidh said in ‘al-Fath’ (2/160):

‘Regarding the saying of Bukhari: ‘equal’ means that he does not stand forward from the Imam and nor just behind him, it is as if the compiler (Bukhari) indicates to what occurs in some of the narrations from Ibn Abbas with the wording: ‘So I stood next to him’ and that apparently means equal to him.

And AbdurRazzaq narrates from Ibn Juraij  who said: I said to ‘Atta:

‘A man prays along with another man, where should he stand?’

He answered: ‘On his right hand side.’

So I asked: ‘Does he stand equal to him so that he is in line with him and one is not ahead of the other?’

He answered: ‘Yes.’

I asked: ‘Do you like it that they stand equal so there is no gap between them?’

He answered: ‘Yes.’

In ‘al-Muwatta’ from Abdullaah bin Utbah bin Mas’ood who said:

I entered upon Umar bin al-Khattab during the morning before Dhur and I found him inRuku (bowing in the prayer) I stood in prayer behind him, but he brought me forward until he placed me next to him on his right side.’

I (Albaani) say: This Athar in ‘al-Muwatta’ with an authentic chain from Umar Radi Allaahu anhu, along with the previously mentioned Ahadeeth are strong proof of the previously mentioned issue of standing equally in the prayer.

As for the saying that it is recommended that the single person following the Imam should stand slightly behind the Imam, as is mentioned by some of the Madhahib(schools of thought), with some of them elaborating about this issue – along with there being no evidence for it from the Sunnah likewise, it also opposes what is apparent from these Ahadeeth, and this narration of Umar, and the previously mentioned statement of ‘Atta and he is the Imam, the noble Taba’ee (Follower of the Companions) Ibn Abee Rabah and likewise it opposes the other statements.

It is more befitting for the Believer to leave those statements of the Madhahib (schools of thought) to their founders, believing that they are rewarded for it, because they endeavoured and formulated an opinion intending the truth, and it is upon the believer to follow what is established in the Sunnah, since indeed the best guidance is the guidance of the Messenger sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam.

[Taken from ‘Silsilah Ahadeeth As-Saheehah’ vol.1 hadeeth no. 219  p.]

All Praise belongs to Allaah, may His Praise and Blessings be upon our final Prophet Muhammad, his family, his  companions and all those who follow his guidance.

The Upbringing of Three Daughters – Shaykh bin Baz

Taken From the Fatawaa of our Shaykh, Allaama, Mufti of the Kingdom of Saudi ArabiaAbdul Azeez bin Abdullaah Bin Baz
Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya

The Question:

The Messenger of Allaah – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – said: ‘Whoever had three daughters and was patient with them, gave them drink and clothed them then they will be a screen for him from the Fire.’

Will this screen from the Fire be just for their father alone or does the mother have a share in this?  I have -all praise be to Allaah – three daughters.

The Answer:

The hadeeth is general for the father and the mother due to the Messenger’s saying: ‘Whoever has two daughters and is good to them then they will be a covering for him from the Fire.’

Likewise if he had sisters, aunts or similar to them and he is good to them then indeed we hope for Paradise for him due to that.

So when he is good to them he is deserving of a great reward, it will screen him from the Fire and it will come between him and the Fire due to his good deed.

This is specific to the Muslims.  If a Muslim performs these good actions desiring the Face of Allaah, then he has attained a means for his salvation    from the Fire.

Being saved from the Fire and entering into Paradise has many routes, so it is necessary for a believer to increase in them.  Islaam itself is a single foundation and it is the fundamental reason for entering Paradise and being rescued from the Fire.

There are deeds which, if a Muslim performs them, he enters Paradise due to them and is saved from the Fire, such as the one who has been given daughters or sisters and is good to them, then they will be a screen for him from the Fire.  Similarly, whoever had three of his offspring, who had not reached the age of accountability, die then they will be a screen for him from the Fire.

The Companions asked: ‘O Messenger of Allaah what about two daughters?’

He answered: ‘Even two,’ and they did not ask him about one daughter.

It is authentically reported on the authority of the Messenger –sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – that he said: Allaah – Azza wa Jal- said, ‘For My believing slave who, if I take his close friend from the people of theDuniya and then he performs righteous actions, there is no reward except Paradise.’

So Allaah –Subhanahu wa Ta’ala- explained that for His believing slave whose close friend He takes- i.e. His beloved – from the people of the Duniya, who is then patient and performs good deeds,He has no reward other than Paradise.

So even if one of our offspring enters this hadeeth and Allaah takes possession of him and takes him to Himself, then if that person’s father, mother or both of them are patient and they perform good deeds then they will have Paradise, and that is great excellence from Allaah.

Similarly, a husband, wife, the rest of the relatives and friends, if they are patient and perform good deeds then they enter this hadeeth provided that they are safe from that which could, perhaps, cause them to die on any of the major sins.  We ask Allaah for safety.

Majmoo’ Fatawa – Ibn Baaz vol. 4 p. 375-376

How do we Fulfill the Rights of our own Flesh and Blood? – Shaykh Muhammad Baazmool

AUTHOR: Shaikh Muhammad ‘Umar Baazmool
SOURCE: Fildhaat-ul-Akbaad (pg. 18-25)
PRODUCED BY: Al-Ibaanah.com

This is an excerpt from an upcoming e-book entitled “Your Flesh and Blood – The Rights of Children” by Shaikh Muhammad ‘Umar Baazmool, may Allaah facilitate it.

Chapter Five:
How do we Fulfill the Rights of our Flesh and Blood?

I will mention here some examples of this:

1. Choosing a good name for him:

The proof for this is the fact that it is authentically reported on the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) that he would change vile names and that he would encourage (his followers) to choose good names (for themselves and their children).

Ibn ‘Umar (radyAllaahu ‘anhu) reported that the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Indeed the most beloved of your names to Allaah are: ‘Abdullaah and ‘Abdur-Rahmaan.” [1]

‘Aqeel bin Shabeeb reported from Abu Wahab Al-Jushamee – one of the Companions – that the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Name yourselves with the names of the prophets. And the most beloved of names to Allaah are: ‘Abdullaah and ‘Abdur-Rahmaan while the most truthful of them are: Al-Haarith and Hammaam. And the vilest of them are Harb and Murrah.” [2]

2. Holding an ‘Aqeeqah for him:

On the authority of Muhammad bin Sireen: Salmaan bin ‘Aamir Ad-Dabbee narrated to us, saying: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) say: “The ‘Aqeeqah is to be offered for the (newborn) boy. So spill blood on his behalf (i.e. offer a sacrifice) and remove the harm from him.” [3]

3. Breastfeeding him:

This is one of the initial rights that a child gets after birth. The noble Qur’aan has affirmed it and defined the maximum time-frame for it, saying: “The mothers shall give suck to their children for two whole years (that is) for those (parents) who desire to complete the term of suckling.”[Surah Al-Baqarah: 233]

4. Paying his expenses:

Allaah says: “But the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother’s food and clothing on a reasonable basis. No person shall have a burden laid on him greater than he can bear.” [Surah Al-Baqarah: 233]

And He says: “And kill not your children because of poverty. We provide sustenance for you and for them.” [Surah Al-An’aam: 151]

And He says: “And kill not your children for fear of poverty. We shall provide for them as well as for you. Surely, the killing of them is a great sin.” [Surah Al-Israa: 31]

So if it were not for the fact that spending on them was an obligation, they would not have any fear of poverty. However, Allaah affirmed that and shows them that He is the One who provides for them and their offspring.

Az-Zuhree said: Abu Idrees ‘Aa’idhullaah bin ‘Abdillaah informed me that ‘Ubaadah bin As-Saamit (radyAllaahu ‘anhu) – who was present at the Battle of Badr and who was one of the chiefs on the night of ‘Aqabah – reported that the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said while a group of his Companions were around him: “Give me the pledge that you will not worship anything along with Allaah, that you will not steal, that you will not commit illegal intercourse, that you will not kill your children, that you will not bring forth a slander which you fabricate between your hands and legs (i.e. by making illegal children belong to their husbands), and that you are not disobedient with respect to (implanting) good. Whoever amongst you fulfills his pledge will be rewarded by Allaah. And whoever indulges in any of these sins and is then punished for it in this worldly life, the punishment will serve as expiation for him. And whoever indulges in any of these sins and then Allaah conceals it for him, the matter is with Allaah – if He wishes, He will pardon him and if He wishes, He will punish him.” ‘Ubaadah bin As-Saamit (radyAllaahu ‘anhu) said: “So we gave him the pledge of allegiance upon these conditions.” [4]

We also mentioned previously the report in which the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said:“It is sufficient sin for a man that he neglects those whom he supports.” [5]

Hishaam narrated: My father reported to me from ‘Aa’ishah that Hind bint ‘Utbah said: “O Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), Abu Sufyaan is a very miserly man and he doesn’t give me what suffices myself and my child, except for what I take from him without him knowing!” He (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Take what suffices you and your child in goodness.” [6]

Anas bin Maalik (radyAllaahu ‘anhu) reported that the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Whoever supports two girls until they reach the age of puberty will come on the Day of Judgement – him and I.” And he (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) interlaced his fingers. [7]

5. Being fair when giving out gifts:

‘Aamir narrated: I heard An-Nu’maan bin Basheer say while he was on the mimbar: “My father once gave me a gift but ‘Amra bint Rawaahah (i.e. my mother) said she would not agree to it unless he made Allaah’s Messenger (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) a witness to it. So my father went to Allaah’s Messenger (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and said: ‘I have given a gift to my son from ‘Amra bint Rawaahah, but she ordered me to make you witness it O Messenger of Allaah.’ He (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) asked him: ‘Did you give the rest of your children a similar gift?’He said: ‘No.’ So Allaah’s Messenger (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: ‘Then fear Allaah and be fair towards all of your children.’ So my father went back and took back his gift.” [8]

6. Commanding them to pray and being patient with them upon that:

This is based on Allaah’s statement: “And enjoin prayer on your family and be patient in offering it. We do not ask you for any provision, (rather) We provide for you, and the good end is for those with Taqwaa.” [Surah TaHa: 132]

‘Amr bin Shu’aib reported from his father who reported from his grandfather that the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Order your children to pray when they are seven years old and beat them to it (if they refuse) when they are ten. And separate them in their beds.” [9]

7. Beware of supplicating against them:

‘Ubaadah bin As-Saamit (radyAllaahu ‘anhu) reported from Jaabir bin ‘Abdillaah (radyAllaahu ‘anhu) that the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Do not supplicate against your own selves. Do not supplicate against your children. And do not supplicate against your wealth. Do not correspond with Allaah on an hour in which He is asked something and thus grants it.” [10]

8. The Order to Restrain Children during the Hours in which the Jinn spread out:

Jaabir (radyAllaahu ‘anhu) reported that the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “When night falls, restrain your children, for indeed the devils spread out at that time. So when an hour has passed from the evening, you may then release them. And close your door and mention Allaah’s Name. Turn off your light and mention Allaah’s Name. Cover your containers and mention Allaah’s Name – even if you put something across it.” [11]

9. Inciting them to keep good company and warning them about bad companions:

Abu Moosaa (radyAllaahu ‘anhu) reported that the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “The example of a righteous companion and an evil companion is like that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. From the first, you would either buy musk or enjoy its good smell while a blacksmith would either burn your home or your clothes or you would experience a foul smell from him.” [12]

10. Being merciful and compassionate towards them:

‘Urwah bin Az-Zubair reported from ‘Aa’ishah (radyAllaahu ‘anhaa), the wife of the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), who narrated to him, saying: “A woman with two children came to me to beg but nothing could be found in my possession except one date, so I gave it to her. The woman took it and divided it between her two daughters. She then got up and left. When the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) came in, I told him what had happened. So he said: ‘Whoever is put in charge of some affair of these daughters and is good to them, they will act as a shield for him from the Fire.’” [13]

Az-Zuhree reported: Abu Salamah bin ‘Abdir-Rahmaan narrated to us that Abu Hurairah (radyAllaahu ‘anhu) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) once kissed Al-Hasan bin ‘Alee while Al-Aqra’ bin Haabis At-Tameemee was sitting next to him, so Al-Aqra’ said: ‘I have ten children and I have not kissed any of them.’ The Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) cast a look on him and said: ‘Whoever is not merciful (to others) will not be treated mercifully.’” [14]

‘Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, reported that once a Bedouin man came to the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and said: “You people kiss children but we don’t kiss them.” So the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “I cannot put mercy in your heart after Allaah has taken it away from it.” [15]

Abu Sulaymaan Maalik bin Al-Huwairith reported: “We came to the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) when we were young men around the same age and stayed with him for twenty nights. He (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) then thought that we missed our families so he asked us whom we left behind to look after them, and we told him. He was compassionate and merciful and said to us: ‘Go back to your families and teach them and command them (with good). And pray as you have seen me praying. And when the time for prayer comes in, one of you should make the Adhaan for all of you, and the eldest amongst you should lead the prayer.’” [16]

11. Serving as good role-models for them:

A child’s guardians should behave in accordance with their responsibility due to the generality of the afore-mentioned hadeeth: ‘All of you are shepherds and each one of you is responsible over his flock.’

12. Teaching them the aspects of the Religion that they are required to learn:

Anas bin Maalik (radyAllaahu ‘anhu) reported that the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Seeking knowledge is obligatory upon every Muslim.” [17]

This goes along with a warning against children traveling abroad even for educational purposes until they first fortify themselves with religious knowledge and a righteous wife.

Footnotes:

[1] Reported by Muslim in his Saheeh: Book of Manners (no. 2132)
[2] Reported by Ahmad in al-Musnad (31/377, no. 19032), Abu Dawood in his Sunan: Book of Manners (no. 4950) and An-Nasaa’ee in his Sunan: Book of Horses (no. 3565); The chain of this narration revolves around ‘Aqeel bin Shabeeb who is unknown. No one reported on his authority except for one narrator. Ibn Hibbaan mentioned him amongst the reliable narrators. Those who have checked the Musnad have declared its chain of narration weak because of this.
[3] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh: Book of ‘Aqeeqah (no. 5471)
[4] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh: Book of Faith (no. 18) and Muslim in his Saheeh: Book of Punishments (no. 1709)
[5] Its references were mentioned previously. Its source is found in Saheeh Muslim but the wording here is from Abu Dawood who reported it with a good chain.
[6] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh: Book of Provision (no. 5364) and Muslim in his Saheeh: Book of Judgements (no. 1714)
[7] Reported by Muslim in his Saheeh: Book of Virtues, Maintaining Family Ties and Good Manners (no. 2631)
[8] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh: Book of Gifts, their Virtue and the Encouragement to Give them (no. 2587) and Muslim in his Saheeh: Book of Gifts (no. 1623)
[9] Reported by Ahmad in al-Musnad (2/180) and Abu Dawood in his Sunan: Book of Prayer (no. 495)
[10] Reported by Muslim in his Saheeh: Book of Abstinence and Heart-Softening Narrations (no. 3014)
[11] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh: Book of the Beginning of Creation (no. 3280) and Muslim in his Saheeh: Book of Drinks (no. 2012)
[12] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh: Book of Business Transactions (no. 2101) and Muslim in his Saheeh: Book of Virtues, Maintaining Family Ties and Good Manners (no. 2628)
[13] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh: Book of Manners (no. 5994) and Muslim in hisSaheeh: Book of Virtues, Maintaining Family Ties and Good Manners (no. 2639)
[14] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh: Book of Manners (no. 5997) and Muslim in hisSaheeh: Book of Virtues (no. 2318)
[15] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh: Book of Manners (no. 5998) and Muslim in hisSaheeh: Book of Virtues (no. 2317)
[16] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh: Book of Manners (no. 6008)
[17] Reported by Ibn Maajah in the introduction to his Sunan: Book of the Virtue of the Scholars (no. 224)

Published on: May 31, 2007

[The above article has been extracted from Al-Ibaanah e-Book :
Your Flesh and Blood : The Rights of Children – Shaikh Muhammad Baazmool ]

Children Praying in the Masjid – Shaikh Muhammad Amaan Al-Jaamee

AUTHOR: Shaikh Muhammad Amaan Al-Jaamee
SOURCE: Sharh Shuroot as-Salaat (pg. 7)
PRODUCED BY: Al-Ibaanah.com

A child that is below the age of seven does not yet comprehend. This is why we were commanded to order our children to pray when they turn seven since before this age they do not possess the adequate level of comprehension. So the point at which he begins to comprehend things is the age of seven. After reaching this age, a child must be ordered to pray. This is based on the statement of Allaah’s Messenger (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam): “Order your children to pray at seven (years of age), and beat them to it (if they fail to comply) at ten. And separate them in their beds.”These are Islamic etiquettes that we are required to follow, and included amongst them is: Commanding the children to pray at the age of seven.

Ordering them to pray doesn’t mean that you just tell your child “Pray” and that’s it. The understanding that we derive from this command of Allaah’s Messenger (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) of ordering our children to pray is that we should teach them how to pray. And if this is not so, then the act of you telling your child who is playing by the door: “Go to the masjid and pray” when you have not taught him how to purify himself or how to perform the prayer, does not remove the responsibility from your shoulders.

You have only fulfilled your responsibility when you have taught him how to purify himself and then you tell him “Go pray.” In this circumstance, you have complied.

Many people are inconsiderate when they bring to the masjid their children – aged seven or less – who are not in a state of purity and have no understanding of how to pray, and then place them in a row of prayer. This row is considered disconnected due to this child standing in it since he is not praying.

The following statement of the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) applies to people who this:“Whoever connects the row, then Allaah will connect him, and whoever cuts off the row, then Allaah cut him off.”

You bring a child who does not comprehend the prayer to the masjid and put him to stand in the first row next to you behind the Imaam while the people remain silent out of courtesy. This child is not in prayer. Perhaps he may not even be in a state of purity, i.e. he may have impurities in his body! This is since you took him from the front of the house before teaching him how to purify himself and how to pray. This is incorrect.

So it is mandatory that you teach him at home how to purify himself and how to pray. Then you should teach him where to stand in the masjid. He should not stand in the front row. Rather, he should stand in the row where all the children are lined up. If a group of people congregate for prayer and they consist of two rows, then the children should stand in the second row, i.e. the last row, after the row of men. This is what the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) instructed us to do. So we must abide by these etiquettes.

Then when the child reaches ten years of age, and non-compliance and rebelliousness (against this order) arises in him, he should be hit for the purpose of disciplining and intimidating him until he prays and safeguards all of his prayers.

Children should be separated in their beds at this age also, i.e. each child must sleep by himself (in his own bed). This is the etiquette of Islaam.

Published on: April 23, 2007

Choosing a School and Friends for your Child – ‘Abdus-Salaam As-Sulaymaan

AUTHOR: ‘Abdus-Salaam bin ‘Abdillaah As-Sulaymaan
SOURCE: Tarbiyat-ul-Awlaad fee Daw’-il-Kitaabi was-Sunnah (pg. 65-68)
PRODUCED BY: Al-Ibaanah.com

[From an upcoming Al-Ibaanah publication: “Raising Children in Light of the Qur’aan and Sunnah” by ‘Abdus-Salaam As-Sulaymaan. The book was introduced and commended by Shaikh Saalih Al-Fawzaan.]

5. Choosing a School:

The father should strive to carefully choose a good school for his child, thus selecting the one that is of the finest quality and not necessarily the one that is closest to him. He should also ask those involved in the field of teaching and educating, who are sincere and honest, as to which of the schools is the best.

School has a deep impact on a student since it is there that he spends a quarter of his day – which is in fact the best time of the day. In the school he learns and is educated, and that is the place where he finds friends and companions.

So based on this, the father must keep a close connection with the school by going to visit it, staying in contact with it by phone and asking about the state of his son or daughter. He should be concerned with asking about his child’s character, behavior and friends before asking about his grades.

He should also follow up on his child’s educational development and studies, and check his notes and homework and be aware of the remarks the teacher makes to his child’s work so that he may correct it.

So your concern with your child’s studies and your solid relationship with his school, his teachers, his schoolwork, and his levels of education is a good that will assist in his well-being and learning, by the will of Allaah.

6. Choosing a Friend:

From the things in which there is no doubt is that a friend has a profound effect on an individual – whether positive or negative. Sufficient to clarify this point is the statement of the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) when he said: “The example of the righteous companion and the evil companion is like that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith.” [Reported by Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim]

The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) also said: “A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let each of you look into whom he takes as a close friend.” [Reported by Abu Dawood]

Therefore, O father, it is incumbent upon you to look for a good friend and a sincere companion for your child before he chooses one on his own, for he may choose the wrong ones and then grow attached to them, after which it will be hard for you to separate them.

There are many accounts, too numerous to be recorded, in which children were raised in good environments and in conservative households but ended up mixing with bad companions on the pretext that they were going on a trip or an outing with them or using the excuse that they wanted to play with them or have fun with them or study with them. And the end result of this was that they had a negative effect on them.

In these days it is extremely difficult for a father to raise his child in exclusion of friends. Trials and temptations constantly surround the youth from all directions.

Bad friends can either be people who are engulfed in their desires or in misconceptions. If they are those who are given into whims and desires, they will lead your child towards mischief and a digression from good character. As for those who follow misconceptions, they will lead your child towards innovations and opposing the guidance of the pious predecessors (Salaf as-Saalih). Perhaps he may even fall into the acts of declaring Muslims disbelievers and innovators. This particularly applies to the members of those methodologies that are foreign to this country (i.e. Saudi Arabia), as has occurred to some of our youth, may Allaah guide them and return them back to the truth.

In conclusion, I ask Allaah to rectify for all of us our intentions and offspring, and that He forgive our parents, granting them the best of rewards on our behalf. I ask Allaah to assist us in being dutiful to them during their lives as well as after their deaths.

I also ask Allaah to aid us in raising our children upon the Qur’aan and the Sunnah and to make them righteous offspring and an enjoyment to our eyes in this life by, through their uprightness, and after death, through their righteous deeds.

May the peace and praises of Allaah be upon our prophet Muhammad.

Published on: February 27, 2007

Prohibition of giving preference to Children over one another in givingGifts, etc.

Imam Al-Nawawi’s Riyad-us-Saliheen
Chapter 353
Prohibition of giving preference to Children over one another in giving Gifts,
etc.

1773.  An-Nu`man bin Bashir (May Allah be pleased with them) said: My father took me to the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) and said to him: “I have gifted one of my slaves to this son of mine.” The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “Have you given such gift to every son of yours?” He replied, “No.” Thereupon he said, “Take this gift back.”

     Another narration is: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “Be mindful of your obligation to Allah and do justice in respect of your children.” My father came back and revoked his gift.

     Another narration is: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) asked, “Have you other children besides this one?” He said, “Yes.” The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) asked, “Have you awarded a gift like this to all of them.” He said, “No.” The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “I am not going to bear witness to this act of injustice.”

    Another narration is: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) asked, “Do you not except goodness from all of them as you except from him?” He said, “Yes, of course.” The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “Then don’t do this (i.e., do not give a gift to one son only).”
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Superiority of one who is Bereaved of his Infants

Imam Al-Nawawi’s Riyad-us-Saliheen
Chapter 164
Superiority of one who is Bereaved of his Infants

952. Anas (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “Any Muslim who loses three children before they reach the age of maturity, will be granted Jannah by Allah, the Exalted, out of His Mercy for them.”
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

953. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “A Muslim whose three children die (in infancy) will not be touched by the Fire (of Hell) except for the fulfillment of Allah’s Oath.”
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

[Allah’s Oath here refers to His Ayah: “There is not one of you but will cross over it (Hell).” (19:71) And the crossing will be across the `Bridge’ set over the Hell.]

954. Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: A woman came to the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) and said: “O Messenger of Allah! Only men benefit from your talks, so please fix a day for us, to teach us the knowledge which Allah has taught you.” The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) fixed a day and directed them to assemble. When they gathered, the Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) went to them and taught them what Allah had taught him. He (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) then said, “Any woman of you whose three children die (in infancy) they will be a guard for her against Fire (of Hell).” One of the women asked: “What if she loses two?” The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) replied, “Even two.”
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Greeting the Children

Imam Al-Nawawi’s Riyad-us-Saliheen
Chapter 136
Greeting the Children

862. Anas (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that he passed by some children and greeted them. Then he said: “Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) used to do the same.”
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

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