[Emotional] The Beautiful Advice of Umar ibn al Khattab to a Sinner
Shaykh Abdurrazzaq al Badr
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jzPs_1jaLIM [8 min]
There is an amazing story that Ibn Kathir mentions in the beginning of the Tafsir of Surah al-Ghafir. Perhaps you can refer back to it in his Tafsir. It is an amazing story in relation to the Leader of the Believers, Umar ibn al-Khattab. Ibn Kathir said: Ibn Abi Hatim narrates from Yazid al-Asam. There was a man from the people al-Sham who was strong, and he would visit Umar from time to time during his caliphate. After not seeing him for a long time, Umar inquired about him: “What happened to so-and-so? He hasn’t visited us in a long time.” They said: “O Leader of the Believers, he started drinking intoxicants and has become preoccupied with these type of affairs…”
So Umar called his scribe, and he said: “Write: From Umar ibn al-Khattab to so-and-so the son of so-and-so. Peace be upon you. Verily I praise Allah, the One Whom none has the right to worshipped but He, The Forgiver of sin, the Acceptor of repentance, the Severe in punishment, the Bestower (of favors), none has the right to be worshipped but He, to Him is the final return (غَافِرِ الذَّنْبِ وَقَابِلِ التَّوْبِ شَدِيدِ الْعِقَابِ ذِي الطَّوْلِ لَا إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا هُوَ ۖ إِلَيْهِ الْمَصِيرُ).” [Ghafir: 3]
Afterwards, Umar said to his companions that were around him: “Supplicate to Allah for your brother that He turns his heart towards Him and that He accepts his repentance.” So the letter reached the man. Umar combined two affairs in the letter: Gentle advice and telling those around him to supplicate to Allah for him, that He turns his heart towards Him and that He accepts his repentance. So when Umar’s letter reached the man, he began to read it and he kept repeating it and he said: “The Forgiver of sin, the Acceptor of repentance, the Severe in punishment… (غَافِرِ الذَّنْبِ وَقَابِلِ التَّوْبِ شَدِيدِ الْعِقَابِ).” The man said: “He (Allah) warned me of His (severe) punishment and promised me that He will forgive me (if I turn to Him and repent).”
Ibn Kathir said: And al-Hafidh Abu Nu’aym narrated this and added, and the addition is the reference point of mentioning this story, which is in relation to the Hadith: “Don’t aid the Shaytan against him (لَا تُعِينُوا عَلَيْهِ الشَّيْطَانَ).” So he continued to repeat these statements over and over again to himself, then he wept and then he sincerely repented. When the news of this man reached Umar that the man was affected and he sincerely repented, he said: “This is the way we deal with this affair.” This is an admonition from Umar, he said: “This is the way we deal with this affair.” Meaning, if it reaches you that someone fell into sin, instead of saying: “May Allah humiliate, may Allah shame the one who committed the sin or abandoned an obligation…”, do what Umar did. Send him a gentle and beautiful advice and tell your brothers to supplicate for him to be guided.
He said: “This is the way we deal with this affair. If you see your brother slip, then correct him and supplicate to Allah that he accepts his repentance…” Listen to what he said: “And don’t be an aid for Shaytan against him (وَلَا تَكُونُوا أَعْوَانًا لِلشَّيْطَانِ عَلَيْهِ).” When the people said (to the one who was lashed for consuming intoxicants): “May Allah humiliate you…” the Prophet ﷺ said: “Don’t aid the Shaytan against him (لَا تُعِينُوا عَلَيْهِ الشَّيْطَانَ).” And here Umar said: “Don’t be an aid for Shaytan against your brother.” So when an individual is preoccupied with saying: “May Allah humiliate him, may Allah shame him,” speaks against him, and he exposes what is concealed, etc… this will aid the Shaytan against him.
However, this blessed and tremendous approach of Umar ibn al-Khattab, which is derived from the Sunnah… And the Prophet ﷺ said: “Upon you is to adhere to my Sunnah and the Sunnah of the rightly guided caliphs after me. Hold fast to it (عَلَيْكُمْ بِسُنَّتِي وَسُنَّةِ الْخُلَفَاءِ الرَّاشِدِينَ الْمَهْدِيِّينَ مِنْ بَعْدِي، تَمَسَّكُوا بِهَا).” This is an extremely tremendous Sunnah and tremendous manner in dealing with others. Therefore, I advise that this narration be read and it is found in the beginning of the Tafsir of Surah Ghafir from the Tafsir of Ibn Kathir. I advise that this narration be read over and over until the heart embraces it, perhaps it becomes a characteristic of the slave. And I also advise that this story of Umar ibn al-Khattab be disseminated. So that this goodness, this gentleness and this mercy is disseminated.
And the disobedient nowadays, the doors (of trials) that didn’t exist in the past have been opened for them… They didn’t exist in the past… Calamitous doors have been opened for them… So they are in need of one… that will be merciful towards them… one that will supplicate for them… one that will be gentle towards them… one that will ask Allah to accept their repentance, to turn their hearts towards Him, to turn them away from the trials, to grant them refuge from the evil of their own souls, from the evil of the Shayatin and the evil of the trials. They are in need of this. They are in need of mercy, in need of gentleness, in need of one who will bring them closer to the good, to guide them to it with gentleness, to supplicate for them.
So with all these tremendous tests they are going through and trials that have swept them away from every angle, one doesn’t aid the Shaytan against him in addition to all this, by cursing him and supplicating against him for humiliation. This is not befitting. Rather the individual should be merciful, gentle, supplicating for his brothers for goodness, for mercy, for repentance.
We ask Allah the Generous, the Lord of the Magnificent Throne to accept all of our repentance (نسأل الله الكريم رب العرش العظيم أن يتوب علينا أجمعين), to guide us to the best character, none guides to the best of it except Him (وأن يهدينا لأحسن الأخلاق لا يهدي لأحسنها إلا هو), to grant us refuge from the evil of our own souls and the evil of our actions (وأن يعيذنا أجمعين من شرور أنفسنا وسيئات أعمالنا). We ask Allah to turn the hearts of the disobedient towards Him (نسأل الله جل وعلا أن يقبل بقلوب العصاة إلى الله). O Allah… O Allah turn their hearts towards You…. O Allah turn their hearts… O Allah turn their hearts towards You (اللهم أقبل بقلوبهم عليك). Accept their sincere repentance. Grant them nearness to You (وتب عليهم توبة نصوحة وارزقهم القرب منك). Prepare the doors of success, uprightness and guidance for them (وهيئ لهم من أبواب التوفيق والصلاح والهداية). O Ever Living the One Who sustains and protects all that exists (يا حي يا قيوم)… The One whose hearts of the slaves are in His Hands (يا من بيده قلوب العباد)… O Turner of the hearts (يا مقلب القلوب)… Accept the repentance of the disobedient believers (تب على عصاة المؤمنين). Guide us and them to Your straight path (واهدنا وإياهم إليك صراطاً مستقيماً). O Ever Living the One Who sustains and protects all that exists, O Owner of Majesty and Honor (يا حي يا قيوم يا ذا الجلال والإكرام).



![1872. Ibn `Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) said: We counted Messenger’s saying a hundred times during one single sitting: Rabb-ighfir li, wa tubb `alayya, innaka Antat-Tawwabur-Rahim. (My Rubb! Forgive me and pardon me. Indeed, You are the Oft-Returning with compassion and Ever Merciful.”
[Abu Dawud and At-Tirmidhi].](https://abdurrahman.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/had-2020-09-21-1.png?w=1024)
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